When posts get closed by admin

I am on another site and a guy posted about his dire situation -hence his moniker - Outofoptions.
His desperation was very evident as he was about to become homeless et al.
After interacting with several members, all of whom presented options - including myself, the guy was too distraught and too far gone to accept any of the advice, as is often viewed here.

Anyway, because he was so negative, poo pooing everything, the admin of the site came on board with...

I feel it's time to close this thread. OP, you've gotten some sage advice from members, yet you refuse to heed that advice. No one here can make decisions for you. This forum cannot serve as a substitute for professional counseling. Please seek help from any of the sources recommended by posters.

So his outlet was taken away, he must feel even worse now.

I am not hung up on it, just rather cruel to close the post after 3 days and 72 posts.

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GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

It seems arbitrary and unnecessary to shut him down

Gusman · 61-69, M

@GJOFJ3 Agreed. After 3 days, post closed. Very harsh for someone in distress.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

Maybe his lack of taking advice was just an attempt to pilfer money from people nefariously.
Think about it. If I want easy money and all I keep getting are good ideas then I have to shoot those ideas down otherwise everyone will think I am ok and won't try to help.
Just a thought.
Remember, the people that run these sites have probably experienced a lot more of that type of behavior and are a bit more savy to the scams and signs of them.
Just a thought.

Gusman · 61-69, M

@Dainbramadge Yes, I though of that as well.
He never asked for anything, just advice.
He had a negative answer to every option people presented.
As we see here from various members.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@Gusman The best way to get what you want is to make the one you want it from to think it is there idea.

OogieBoogie · F

I dunno. That's rather an exceptionally personal interception by admnistration .

When someone asks for advice, but closes everybody down in denial ....what is the point of continuing ?

Sometimes hard love is a real thing .

People can get addicted to their victimhood - it happens here: same people postinf the same 'woe is me posts', on the same thing .....after 5 fricken years!
Still seeking sympathy for something they haven't moved on from ONE inch.

Is it bad , or is it stopping somone from wallowing in their own dispair and refusing to see their options ?

Gusman · 61-69, M

@OogieBoogie I understand fully.
It did seem that no matter the great advice/ideas, he was going to shoot them down, and did.

OogieBoogie · F

@Gusman i think the message from the admin was personal and thoughtful .
They coulda just blindly closed it with no explanation .

bookerdana · M

Several posts had comments closed......such an anemic response by admins

Gusman · 61-69, M

@bookerdana Very harsh I thought. He has not posted again, last posted 31 hours ago.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

Some people just want to play the role of the master, don't try to make sense of it.

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