Relationships and loneliness

If I were ever to get married, I would probably do it out of fear of loneliness, because you want to feel that you have someone to lean on, someone who'll ''be there for you'' , but I know this is an illusion. It's an illusion I can't shake off. I've been in relationships before and still felt lonely and found myself alone when I needed support. Same fir friendships. I have a couple of good friends, but when I'm at my loneliest, they happen to be busy and I feel completely alone (not that I'm usually clingy with them...quite the opposite. I like my space and we do keep some distance). Heck I even feel lonely with my own family. Never get along with parents and siblings. They drive me crazy and being with them for more than day makes me have dark thoughts (about myself) and feel like I'm going to develop an autoimmune disease if I decide to move back in with them. Then when I'm alone in my place, I also get lonely and scared, spend time on my phone to cope, because I live in a town where I can't even take a walk. There's literally nothing to do and nowhere to go. Literally nothing, just go to work and come back from work. Just wanted to talk. I hope I one day get rid of this loneliness and not need anyone

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

Humans are a social species. The need for others is actually a strength, not a weakness. Though we're in a troubled time when actual connection has become thin and social parasites ravenous. And so we feel our strength is turned against us. I don't think marriage is a magic solution. It actually bothers me that the legal and financial ramifications may be what ends up holding people together instead of actually wanting to be together. It's hard. I too can feel lonely when surrounded by people. Even people I like. The connection just seems absent at times. In such feelings you are not alone. They are normal things to feel in these current days.

valobasa4ever · F

“Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.”

🙏

Julien · 36-40, M

In the meantime if you are looking for friends to talk to … :)

ShenaniganFoodie · 41-45, M

Maybe it's the country you live in !

I have 7 beaches within 12 minutes drive, A large lake, a huge ocean & 2 golf courses at my door.

Locals are very friendly but most 80% are over the age of 65.

You met many people at the beach, I'm still single but have made many female friends.

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GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

I'd never get married out of loneliness, because people have often made me feel more lonely and invalidated than sheer isolation ever has. I don't need to deal with a divorce on top of everything else!

Hell is other people.

ABCDEF7 · M

Enjoying your own company is great thing to learn.

Talking to someone with anonymity, like here can be a short term temporary solution.

Feel free to PM me if you don't find anyone.

Best Wishes :)

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