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I Am Depressed

I am in a relationship with someone who constantly moan about being depressed, anxiety attacks and wanting to commit suicide.

I gathered from frequent stories I've read on this site, it's always the depressed one screaming out for help. Let me unequivocally share some experience and shed some light on what it's like being in a relationship with someone who is always negative and depressed.

I've tried being sympathetic, tried seeking professional help, tried the endless nights consoling him, tried the never ending guarding incase he commit suicide. Every conversation will always end up being about him. I have tried and tried and now reach the critical point of "IM F**KING TIRED."

I make excuses to remain in the office longer, any odd pretexts to be away from the cloud of darkness looming and surrounding what we once crave to be in. Our home has become an unwelcome and undesirable place. It was my comfort zone, my place of solace, my haven and castle. Everything has evaporated, the toxicity is lingering in the air poisoning the relationship, and I am beginning to despise and hate him. His voice and everything about him irritates me.

My friends has notice the cloud of gloom that follows me. When they try to take me out, he makes excuses he is sick or he would ring me over and over until I answer. When I do answer, he would instantly make me feel horrible so I don't enjoy myself.

Anyone in a relationship similar to what I have explained above, once you see these signs. Get out while you can.
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SW-User
I can understand someone having depression issues but I can't understand them having them while in a good relationship. To me that's a reason to be constantly happy but I guess there's a lot more to it than I understand. At some point you need to put your own health first so I hope you are able to.
@SW-User
I am slowly withdrawing myself from this relationship.
SW-User
@Random1Thoughts It sounds like you need to. I have depression issues but when I'm with friends or a partner I'm super happy and motivated so it sounds like what @SerenitiesScars said.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@SW-User depression can be caused by an imbalance of neurological transmitters, a good relationships help, but neither prevent or cure it.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@SW-User Their depression has zippo to do with the realtionship.

Depression happens even when the world around seems normal and happy. Because...it is not a choice.

If you are happy with friends you are putting on a facade or not depressed at all.

I am frankly shocked at the people who gave the advice to leave.

Depression is a mental illness ..a disease. If your partner had...alzheimers..would the answer be to leave? Same difference.
SW-User
@JaggedLittlePill My dad was being treated for Alzheimers for about 5 years until he died the day before yesterday. His funeral is tomorrow. Nobody left him but there comes a point if someone is unable to have their health issues improved at home and worse... if their issues are risking the health of themselves or others around them then either they or you have to seek professional help for them. It's not about leaving them but it's about saving both them and yourself. It's a very difficult thing when a family member or partner get to this point, but it's not something that should be ignored but you can't just let things go on the way they are. My dad thought he was fine but slowly we got him help even though he fought it all the way.