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I don't think I should be marrying soon...

I can't even tell my family about my bipolar disorder 2, how could I tell someone I could potentially break up with?

No.

This is a big no.

Plus, I have so many issues that resurface whenever I'm neutral or worse depressed.

I went to therapy when I was hypomanic (before the diagnosis) to solve them, but the therapist after 05 sessions said you need no more, you're good to go with the conclusion that I should listen to my body more in order not to burnout. And she was satisfied about how I dealt with the other issues.

So, if my insecurities and issues are soothed and well dealt with and empathized with when I'm hypomaniac, and only resurface when I'm depressed or neutral... how am I supposed to live with someone and have kids with them? How will I raise them? How can I have me as a mother? 💔

God, I can't even think about it...
Actually, I'm overthinking about it. I pray things will be alright.
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I know quite a few people that are bipolar. They take medicine for that. Are you taking anything to help you get through this? I know it's really tough and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it. I know there's a medicine out that one person went to a hospital for and I can't remember what they give this person but it was like their life was turned from night to day and they were bipolar. I just now asked my daughter if she can remember what that was and then I'll tell you. Maybe they can find just the right medicine for you. I wonder if you have been diagnosed correctly. I mean I've seen it happen where they say you have this or that but it's actually something else. I do believe you I just wonder if you have a good doctor. I hope so. Please feel better soon. I know it's hard. ❤🫂 Please don't be too hard on yourself. You can't help this. And The Anarchist was right. People are much more accepting of mental challenges now than they were years ago. It's no longer looked at in a negative manner. I think they're much more understanding. People just can't help it I'm glad they finally turned that around because you couldn't even talk about it years ago. People would label you was crazy if you had any kind of mental challenges back then. I'm sure glad they got educated.

It looks like you're pretty in tune with yourself, in touch with your feelings and I'm glad about that. I think you'd make a great mother but that right now you're taking good care of yourself and that means everything. That's smart thinking.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@LadyGrace Thank you LadyGrace for your response. 🌹 I will try to do my best.
Okay. I found what you needed to look into. These are the very best. My daughter knows a person that was way beyond control with bipolar and he went to the doctor and got this once a month and it turned his life around 100% and everybody could see the difference. It was like he went from darkness to light. Changed his whole life for the better and I hope this will help you too. You only have to get a shot once a month and it takes care of the month. It is well worth it. Here's the info:

The once-monthly injection for bipolar disorder is typically Abilify Maintena (aripiprazole). It's an extended-release injectable antipsychotic medication used for the maintenance treatment of bipolar disorder in adults.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@LadyGrace I have taken it for 15days only. The effects start at 06 weeks.

I have been prescribed escitalopram once the the depression hits on. Doctor decided it is not there yet so I'm not taking it yet.
@Friendlyperson I'm excited that you are taking something at least to help and I believe it will. I'm so glad for you. You deserve the best you're so sweet.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@LadyGrace aww, thank you for these compliments. You have no idea how much I appreciate them 🥹💕
Many people struggle with different kinds of mental illness, and there is so much more openness about this than there used to be, and more support available.
I think if you want to find a spouse you should be hopeful, and ready to be honest with anyone you are potentially getting close to. Tell them about your history and how your illness affects you. They may not be afraid at all.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@ThePatientAnarchist You might be right... I don't know. It is so scary to approach the topic and risk the information being shared.
And specially the passing on my insecurities and pain to my children. This is a nightmare.

And thank you for your response. 🥹🌹
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
I'm sorry.
I know what it can be like with mental illness.
I have OCD and I had Relationship related intrusive thoughts. I've always wanted children, but was scared I would pass it down.

Don't like it take away from your happiness.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@basilfawlty89
Thank you for your words...
How are you dealing with it now my friend? 🥹
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
@Friendlyperson no longee much Relationship OCD, but single.
No longer worried about passing it down.
The risk is very low.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@basilfawlty89 I am not in a relationship either, but just the thought of it scares me.
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
Stop being ashamed of having bipolar 2. It's not a death sentence and your family is where you got the bipolar 2 genes to begin with. Statistically speaking you're likely not the only one who has it,you're just the only one who has been diagnosed.You're worried about others accepting you because you haven't accepted yourself. People with bipolar 2 live perfectly normal lives. They can have successful careers,families and relationships. You're living in the best era when it comes to mental health education,medication and public acceptance. Your diagnosis is what you choose to make of it and what you choose to see.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@PinkMoon No no, it is not because I do not accept it.
My family stigmatizes MH so bad. Also, my paternal aunt and grandma (both died at a young age) both had depression and father I believe is still guilty of it.
My parents are going to be scared and worried and both are >65 and I do not want to add to their worried.
My sister once suspected it and we had a conversation about mental health and diseases in general and she literally said: I'm scared to have chronic disease in the family, I can't handle it. I asked, what if it is schizophrenia or bipolar, or matter of fact some organic disease? She said, any thing temporary is fine, but something chronic will hurt me.

The only person who I might tell is my sister though. She will learn to accept it when time comes to tell her.
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
@Friendlyperson I'm sorry your family has such a traumatic past with mental illness. I completely understand not wanting to worry your parents and I'm glad that you are open to opening up to your sister. She'll understand and that way you can be less lonely. You're not going to end up like your relatives with depression because you are working hard to get help. You're not just dwelling in depression,you're fighting it.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@PinkMoon Thank you for answering @PinkMoon❤ I like you support.

I am not when when I'll tell her though. I will just push on a little.
Lots of people never marry, some that want to never do, and many marry that shouldn't. I think half the marriages work out anyway, and more than half shouldn't have.
At least you know what to avoid, many don't even get that far.
Note that single working people end up with the most money in the end, kids are expensive.
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@JamesBugman lol thanks for the comment
YoMomma ·
You can tell them and if you do or don't break up or get married at least you will both know what you were dealing with it’s not always an issue
Im sorry :( i have mental stuff too and ik that feeling
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
@TryingtoLava Im so sorry dear 🥹❤ I pray you find peace 🥹
Does your family have an arrange marriage system?

 
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