I don't think I should be marrying soon...

I can't even tell my family about my bipolar disorder 2, how could I tell someone I could potentially break up with?

No.

This is a big no.

Plus, I have so many issues that resurface whenever I'm neutral or worse depressed.

I went to therapy when I was hypomanic (before the diagnosis) to solve them, but the therapist after 05 sessions said you need no more, you're good to go with the conclusion that I should listen to my body more in order not to burnout. And she was satisfied about how I dealt with the other issues.

So, if my insecurities and issues are soothed and well dealt with and empathized with when I'm hypomaniac, and only resurface when I'm depressed or neutral... how am I supposed to live with someone and have kids with them? How will I raise them? How can I have me as a mother? 💔

God, I can't even think about it...
Actually, I'm overthinking about it. I pray things will be alright.

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basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

I'm sorry.
I know what it can be like with mental illness.
I have OCD and I had Relationship related intrusive thoughts. I've always wanted children, but was scared I would pass it down.

Don't like it take away from your happiness.

Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89
Thank you for your words...
How are you dealing with it now my friend? 🥹

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

@Friendlyperson no longee much Relationship OCD, but single.
No longer worried about passing it down.
The risk is very low.

Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 I am not in a relationship either, but just the thought of it scares me.

ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

Many people struggle with different kinds of mental illness, and there is so much more openness about this than there used to be, and more support available.
I think if you want to find a spouse you should be hopeful, and ready to be honest with anyone you are potentially getting close to. Tell them about your history and how your illness affects you. They may not be afraid at all.

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Stop being ashamed of having bipolar 2. It's not a death sentence and your family is where you got the bipolar 2 genes to begin with. Statistically speaking you're likely not the only one who has it,you're just the only one who has been diagnosed.You're worried about others accepting you because you haven't accepted yourself. People with bipolar 2 live perfectly normal lives. They can have successful careers,families and relationships. You're living in the best era when it comes to mental health education,medication and public acceptance. Your diagnosis is what you choose to make of it and what you choose to see.

Friendlyperson · 26-30, F

@PinkMoon No no, it is not because I do not accept it.
My family stigmatizes MH so bad. Also, my paternal aunt and grandma (both died at a young age) both had depression and father I believe is still guilty of it.
My parents are going to be scared and worried and both are >65 and I do not want to add to their worried.
My sister once suspected it and we had a conversation about mental health and diseases in general and she literally said: I'm scared to have chronic disease in the family, I can't handle it. I asked, what if it is schizophrenia or bipolar, or matter of fact some organic disease? She said, any thing temporary is fine, but something chronic will hurt me.

The only person who I might tell is my sister though. She will learn to accept it when time comes to tell her.

YoMomma · 41-45

You can tell them and if you do or don't break up or get married at least you will both know what you were dealing with it’s not always an issue

TryingtoLava

Im sorry :( i have mental stuff too and ik that feeling

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