I have autism I get this feeling I annoy everyone who interacts with me. I feel like I'm...

SW-User

In that situation it's about reading the room.. im sure she wants to tlak to you but it's difficult for her to watch her show and give her attention.

She likely had a long day and wanted some time for herself.

I would try to not take it personally, everyone deals with those situations a bit differently.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I'm so used to be ignored or talked over that if someone actually stops, looks at me and listens to me intently I get anxious.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

Just remember that "normal" is whatever it is to you. And everyone else is just as different from you as you are from them. You learned to interact with them. If they dont learn to intereact with you, thats their problem. Not yours. No one is "wrong". We are all our own "normal." No need for anyone to be deflated..😷

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

I'm sorry you feel that way. You mother should have handled that situation better, as she should be familiar with how you behave and should know how to address you properly.

There's nothing wrong with how you behave. Yes, some people may get annoyed, but the people who really care about you understand that they are the ones who have to adjust to accommodate you. Even if they do get annoyed, that doesn't mean they don't care.

It might be more difficult dealing with people who don't know you're autistic. I'm afraid you'll just have to figure out how to communicate with them, maybe just by coming out and saying something like "I'm autistic, so please let me know if I'm annoying you" or something like that.

I know it's hard, but you're OK. Don't let your struggles get you down.

Spectre128 · 51-55, M

That's tough, and was a little mean of your mother, but sometimes people get cranky, need a little space, I hope she took the time to listen to what you needed to say later. My son has autism and I'm sure I've messed up loads of times with him.

Fluffybull · F

I can understand how your mother wanted to watch her TV show but I also understand your desire to tell her things you find exciting. Would it help if you wrote down what you wanted to tell your mum? Make it like a letter eg "Hi Mum! Something really exciting happened today/I read something fun/I saw something in the new!" etc hen leave it for her to read and she can talk to you later about it?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Awwww, don’t change, I’m sure you’re super fun to be around! 👍😊

SW-User

I feel the exact same way! I find the most random things fascinating and everyone's all "whatever" or "I don't care". Luckily, other autistic people seem to share many of my interests.