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A shout out to girls posting about mental struggles

You don't owe anyone here your responds, not in comments not in dm. If someone seems pushy / creepy or with ulterior motives you're 100% allowed to block them instantly.

Predators want you to think you owe them your time, your answers, your explanation and that's how the manipulation begins. They wanna save you and give you love and attention, while making you feel bad for rejecting them. You're guilt tripped in to keep contact until they know your personal info and they can meet you. And from there they guilt trip you to move in with them. And once they have you to themselves it's bye bye loving guy.

I've learned my lesson. No one who's kind would ever force you to respond, force you to agree with force you to give them attention or give them whatever they claim you owe them. Good guys take no for an answer. Good guys don't push stress force or demand. They respect your time, your person, and they want you to make you feel comfortable
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NerdySoph ยท 26-30, F
Thank you for this, and i am sorry you had to experience a bad lesson on it.
I hope many people will see and read this post, if not to help them now, then maybe some time in the future.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@NerdySoph Yes they really supported me. They were the only ones who knew the truth too.

And I thought climbing up a mountain was the scariest thing I've ever done in life,but leaving him, making an escape plan like I was in some thriller movie, secretly packing my belongings, and sneaking out, was the most terrifying thing I've done.

He found me and brought me back. The second I saw him behind the door it was like I was hypnosed all over again. Like the fear took over and made me just follow "order" like some pet.

I don't even remember how I left the second time. But then my family got involved and his family heard I was moving and somehow it was final after that.
NerdySoph ยท 26-30, F
@Queendragonfly That second time omg. Must have been a nightmare being under that spell again. Live happy now and keep being you. This post you made today may well have saved lives or it will.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@NerdySoph Yeah it was so strange. How can it even happen again it made no sense. But then I learned about Fawn response, a trauma mechanism where you just follow someone's lead and do what's expected to protect yourself.

Suddenly it started to make sense

I hope this post can prevent danger for others โค๏ธโœจ thank you I'm doing my best to enjoy my life.
Degbeme ยท 70-79, M
You put this very well. ๐Ÿค—
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@Degbeme Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธโœจ
Foxes ยท F
So many people needed to hear this. You did the right thing by speaking up about it.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@Foxes Thanks for talking to me about it and supporting it. We all need to be united in this โค๏ธ
mindstruggle ยท F
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Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@mindstruggle ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•โœจ
Raaii ยท 22-25, F
Thank you so so much ๐Ÿ™‡โ€โ™€๏ธ
I feel I needed this long time ago
I'm glad that you're hereโค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน๐Ÿ’Ž
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@Raaii I'm sorry no one told you this sooner. ๐Ÿ™โค๏ธ But hopefully it can be a comfort that you did nothing wrong. You were the victim, ok? It was never your fault.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@Raaii And thank you for saying such move words about me, I'm glad you are here with us all too. You deserve to be happy ๐Ÿ’•โœจ
SW-User
As a guy I think itโ€™s really good to come across and read through posts like this. Reminders of the extremes in people, both good and bad. Good reminder on how to pursue the best and the good in others and in ourselves with any interaction.
Scribbles ยท 36-40, F
Well said
Dez580 ยท 61-69, M
QUITE RIGHT, one should never feel any guilt in ignoring those you have no interest in,and never accept online bullying either
scorpiolovedeep ยท 51-55, M
Mental health is one's right.

Let us acknowledge what the other person is going through and be kind.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@LittleBallOfFire

At least read this, then I'll leave you alone.
Herefornow ยท 31-35, M
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uncalled4 ยท 56-60, M
Very well said. I offer to hear people out, but with the caveat that self-disclosure is only an option and not mandatory.
Queendragonfly ยท 31-35, F
@uncalled4 Yeah, which is a huge difference.
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