I told my shrink i wanted to die and she said it's selfish

Yeah, that was pretty harsh. Sounds like they are either a newbie in the field or should think about a career change.

The thing about suicide is that it’s permanent and we can’t predict the future. Yes, in this moment (that feels like a lifetime) the pain feels unbearable; but, the fact is it’s truly temporary if you really think about it.

I have a list on my mirror that I read on the days I feel like the pain is endless. It lists everything that’s good, important, or something I don’t want to miss. Some things seem very insignificant…hot chocolate, a new book in a series I’m reading, I’ll never feel the sun on my face. Others are bigger…a hug from a friend or loved one, finally having a good day.

As hard as it is, the choice is ultimately yours. But, in the great scheme of things, it isn’t about your family being selfish, it’s about them loving and fearing for you. And it isn’t about you being selfish. It’s about you having to find a different solution to ease your pain.

Sorry for the ramble.
You matter…you have purpose…you have meaning.

It was probably a way of stopping you. Maybe knows you care too much for others to put them through that. Could’ve been handled better tho

They shouldn't have said it like that at all. But also you shouldn't say its selfish of your family to want you to live either. Obviously I don't know anything about your family or what you've been/are going through, but most families have no idea how to support people going through what you are, they hope and pray that you will feel better, that talking to a therapist will help, that taking meds will help, anything to stop you feeling like that. But they don't know that meds sometimes don't work and have side affects, they don't know that therapy takes a long time and ad there's so many types it takes takes while to find what works for you, they don't know how much it hurts to think that nothing is changing and that we're going to be stuck like this...but what they do know is that they don't want to lose you. So no it's not selfish to feel how you feel, but they were right about how it would impact a family, especially one who won't ever really understand why. It makes sense in our heads, but never really will in theirs.

I’m suicidal yet I found true love in the first time ever my in my life and he wants to have babies with me , I have two sisters and a rabbit , I also have good friends too online who would probably miss me I’m sure my parents and family would too but that doesn’t mean I haven’t stopped planning to end my life. Mental illness doesn’t discriminate. Sometimes people loose their fight and that’s ok they are never selfish in fact they are the opposite , I found people who say it’s selfish to do nothing to help those who are suicidal. I think you need a new therapist I had one who asked why I didn’t succeed when I nearly died of suicide at 15. So yeah it’s never selfish In fact I stayed around for a while just for others and it’s not got me anywhere

Eh, even if that is her opinion concerning it she had no business answering you with that. She should have explored why you feel the way you do and validate your feelings, even the not so pleasant ones. Not add to the weight that’s already felt. Wasn’t very professional at all.

But the thing is you don’t have to suffer. And that’s where a professional can help you. Maybe guilt is something that’s done as therapy now, but it doesn’t seem helpful to me.

What makes you suffer though? What she did sounds like emotional blackmail to me. Shouldn't she offer you some other way to help with your suffering instead?

What if she had a patient with no relatives or friends? What would her argument be?

It is selfish.
There is treatment out there to help with these kind of thoughts
There is no treatment when you are dead.

I hope you find something that makes you change your mind and SMILE today❣️🤗

Time for a new therapist

Try a support group

Jeez, I mean surely a therapist shouldn't say that

Is there anyone you love so much you'd suffer if they killed themselves?