I don't think my sense of self has returned fully from the last 3 years yet

I went through a time where I just worked and studied in relative isolation. I thought it was social anxiety but I literally haven't invested in anything in my personal life, hobbies, interests etc. I had no time.

So I find myself not knowing who I am, I have basically nothing to say to people other than "I study and work". People like me because I'm oddly funny in person and genuine but tbh I feel there's not much interesting about me right now. I feel like I'm vacant? Nobody home at the inn.

I was happiest in martial arts, going to the bar afterwards with friends. I think we need to be part of something to have identity, it's shared.

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MrEverclearBlueSkies · M Best Comment

Well said. The good news is you can give yourself permission to rediscover who you are. I went through that period with my divorce: started doing karaoke religiously on friday nights and started playing frisbee football. Then crocheting ( still terrible at it).You have gifts and talents buried in you that you havent even discovered yet....and here's a bio hack that can help you unlock this:

Go outside into nature away from any man made things.....like in a park forest or by a creek somewhere.....spending time alone there will "unearth" things inside you and listen and be there without a phone or anything.....you'll find those parts of yourself that were hidden and not missing...on your side!

Mordechai · 31-35, M

@MrEverclearBlueSkies This is the best advice I've ever gotten here and I've been here a long time. Thank you so much

MrEverclearBlueSkies · M

@Mordechai Your welcome. and thanks for best answer. yeah I can't take all the credit the "find yourself in Mother Nature" moment came from John Eldredge. He has a book Wild at Heart that is mostly pretty good. cheers

exchrist · 36-40

I find myself without personal interests pastimes or hobbies also. For medical reasons I haven’t been able to work for political reasons I have almost no friends only SW and family. The internet is certainly not a friend.
I was also thinking of what I did in the past to feel included. Whereas I used to smoke and drink to meet and connect with people. Now, I’ve stopped both; plus for medical reasons. That was a big part of who I was smoking weed with some friends I know. Get drunk every other week at a local bar hook up from time to time.
Now what?
I will eventually pursue more education to become more involved in socialization. But at age 35 I’m pretty much checked out so to speak! Bah adulthood sucks. Plus with americas future being championed by a bunch of retirees prayer is the best we have 😭 Good luck to us all!

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