I don't think my sense of self has returned fully from the last 3 years yet

I went through a time where I just worked and studied in relative isolation. I thought it was social anxiety but I literally haven't invested in anything in my personal life, hobbies, interests etc. I had no time.

So I find myself not knowing who I am, I have basically nothing to say to people other than "I study and work". People like me because I'm oddly funny in person and genuine but tbh I feel there's not much interesting about me right now. I feel like I'm vacant? Nobody home at the inn.

I was happiest in martial arts, going to the bar afterwards with friends. I think we need to be part of something to have identity, it's shared.

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MrEverclearBlueSkies · M Best Comment

Well said. The good news is you can give yourself permission to rediscover who you are. I went through that period with my divorce: started doing karaoke religiously on friday nights and started playing frisbee football. Then crocheting ( still terrible at it).You have gifts and talents buried in you that you havent even discovered yet....and here's a bio hack that can help you unlock this:

Go outside into nature away from any man made things.....like in a park forest or by a creek somewhere.....spending time alone there will "unearth" things inside you and listen and be there without a phone or anything.....you'll find those parts of yourself that were hidden and not missing...on your side!

Mordechai · 31-35, M

@MrEverclearBlueSkies This is the best advice I've ever gotten here and I've been here a long time. Thank you so much

MrEverclearBlueSkies · M

@Mordechai Your welcome. and thanks for best answer. yeah I can't take all the credit the "find yourself in Mother Nature" moment came from John Eldredge. He has a book Wild at Heart that is mostly pretty good. cheers