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For those of you who see/seen a therapist,

And even more so, those who have been nagged by friends and family to see a therapist,

Have you ever had the same friends and family tell you:

"you better not talk about this with your therapist!"


Or

"You better not be telling your therapist about me!"

I mean, if they are doing something, whatever it is, that is causing you to struggle to cope,

Then what the hell are you supposed to tell your therapist?

And I mean, even if you are the problem and they friends/family members aren't,
Then how is the therapist supposed to help you identify that so you can work on it if you don't tell them anything?

So what the heck was with the nagging me to see a shrink if you don't want me to talk about what's bothering me?

It's like: "we want you to seek help, but don't want you to receive it"
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4meAndyou · F
If I may, I would like to suggest that you tell your family and friends that, of COURSE you would never, ever tell your therapist this, that, and the other thing...and then tell your therapist that your family and friends want you to keep their behaviors secret! After all, what they don't know...they don't know! ☺☺☺
Fishy · 36-40, F
@4meAndyou yeah, I pretty much do this already,

But I can't fathom their logic of wanting me to do talk therapy but then picking and choosing what they think I should talk about....

And I also feel bad for lying to them if they ask me directly if I talk about them
4meAndyou · F
@Fishy It is THEY who should feel badly. What kind of toxic relationship assumes that you are required to LIMIT your own honesty, with a health care professional?

Would they instruct you NOT to tell your doctor that you had a contagious disease, which THEY had passed on to you? Of course not.

Just realize that these people are ASSUMING rights over you that they don't have.
Fishy · 36-40, F
@4meAndyou I know this sounds generic,
But she's actually a sweet person.

She admitted to me that she has a lot of insecurities about her problems and doesn't want others to know about it,

She wants me to talk about my problems with my shrink and not hers, but what she doesn't realise is that her problems are becoming my problems because I have to live with and cope with her going through her problems 🥲
4meAndyou · F
@Fishy Sweet and gentle dictator? Assuming rights she doesn't have? It doesn't matter how much you bleed, as long as her secrets are protected? Let's PLEASE shine a little light of reality on her behavior.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@Fishy Lie to them, it is your life and your own personal mental health recovery and honestly your family does not matter when it comes to you and your own mental health.
Fishy · 36-40, F
@4meAndyou yeah I agree with you about her behaviour around this isn't great,

But what I meant to say was outside that, she's actually a good person

I suppose it's just a matter of working through it