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I need to tell him something. Or do I?

I need to tell him that this thing between us, whatever it is, isn’t a good idea. He should be out there with girls his own age doing the things that they do. I need to tell him that being with me won’t get him anywhere. But why do I desperately want to go on a bike ride with him? Why can’t I just have fun and not worry about the future? Why can’t I just enjoy the attention of a young guy while it lasts? This is probably just a little flirtation for him, it doesn’t really mean anything. I’m sure I’m making a big deal out of nothing, like I always do.

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LadyGrace · 70-79

Precious lady, just enjoy it for what it is and don't analyze it. Don't read into it one way or the other. Don't say anything. You'll hurt his feelings. Let it naturally go where it will go, but not knowing his thoughts, have no expectations one way or the other. Two people enjoying each other's company so much? Age has nothing to do with it. If it isn't love on his part, then I'm sure he'd make you the best forever friend. Apparently, the feeling is mutual, or he wouldn't love your company so much. I think its absolutely marvelous!

SW-User

@LadyGrace Thank you dear Sister 🤗 . These are encouraging words. I have started to enjoy his company. Yesterday after dinner when we pulled into my driveway I felt a bit disappointed. I felt like I wanted to have his company a little longer. I wasn’t ready for the evening to end. There is indeed a strong connection. He called me again this morning and I was waiting for his call too. I feel so happy.

LadyGrace · 70-79

@SW-User And I am thrilled FOR you! I am excited!! Keep me posted!

SW-User

@LadyGrace Thank you ❤️. I will for sure.

TexChik · F

He or you will move on, but for now you two should enjoy each other. Teach him a few things, like how to be patient and to think in the bedroom. He will thank you later. 😉

Carazaa · F

@TexChik Sinning is always a bad thing! We always regret our sins eventually. We don't have our prayers answered if we sin, and our children are not blessed by God.

SW-User

@TexChik Oh yeah I will 😊. Learning is both ways. I just want to see where it leads us. My inner voice says that I need to step outside me and see myself the way he sees me.

Carazaa · F

Don't be tempted to destroy your future. Jesus is coming very soon. Make sure that you spend time with Christians. Put your eyes on Jesus. If you are going to marry don't you want it to be a man your age who loves God and loves you because of your walk with God? A Godly man would never tempt you to sin, ever.

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SW-User

@Carazaa Thank you for this advice. This is an important dimension. God loves everyone and I wish and put every efforts to make sure that he walks in the path of God. His past is not important because whatever it may be, what really matter is if I can pray to God and do my bit to help him become a Godly man with the grace of God. I value your suggestion, my friend 🤗

Carazaa · F

@SW-User

God says

"I will be a Father to the Fatherless and a husband to the husbandless"

God is your husband if you don't have a husband. Don't make him jealous!

SW-User

@Carazaa I respect your views. I admire your courage and sincerity in following every Word of God. I am not sure if I am as sincere as you in this regard. I don’t know where we both will end up. At the moment it is difficult for me to apply the break. Yes, you are right, Luke 16:18 clearly states the restrictions. Versus that values the institution of marriage. If people would have followed every verses then there would have been way less divorces happening.

SW-User

It's ran it's course, or you just like his attention? Only you know this. I read a story about a god grandmother having sex with her great godson. The therapist ignored the relationships a little, and said the young man loves the thrill, can't help himself, and the older woman loved the attention and lust she wasn't feeling anymore in life. Now she did caution, like in the column, to the one who wrote about this, it may not end well and they are both playing with fire?

SW-User

@SW-User Thank you.
I was breaking my head over it the whole night. Now I have determined to simply enjoy the gorgeous sunshine and the exercise and not worry about anything else, at least for now.We both dined together yesterday. We talked about everything from our families to our hobbies, dreams, tastes in books and music. l admire his sincerity and sense of purpose, especially at his young age. I could feel a strong connection with him.

JesseInTX · 51-55, M

Nothing wrong with being a cougar and help the young man along. I’m thankful for the one I had back in my late teens 😉

SW-User

@JesseInTX I’m not a cougar. It just sort of happened. He’s a great guy, and we’re having Good time together.

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

This is the only thing that makes me worry Why women think like that after they grow older than 35?

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littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@SW-User I have loved older woman. If they thought the same thing and left me or kicked me out their life then it's a shame.

SW-User

@littlepuppywantanewlife I wish you will find love with an older woman soon. Good luck 👍

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@SW-User Thanks for saying this. Isn't cope up with the fact that someone left me after knowing them for 7 years. She never said a word she ghosted me and then blocked. It was hurtful that i can't even think about going out or talking with someone else. I can't think properly.

ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F

Sounds like you’re overthinking things. I understand. Just enjoy the time you have with him. Relationships run their course. Let yours do the same.

SW-User

@ChampagneOnIce Thank you. That makes me feel good 🤗

smiler2012 · 56-60

maybe you are not comfortable and have reservations with the age difference. but if you are are both happy why not give it a shot and see where it goes [gloriam]

BiasForAction · M

Or you could just go on a bike ride with him and stop analyzing it.

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