I need to tell him something. Or do I?

I need to tell him that this thing between us, whatever it is, isn’t a good idea. He should be out there with girls his own age doing the things that they do. I need to tell him that being with me won’t get him anywhere. But why do I desperately want to go on a bike ride with him? Why can’t I just have fun and not worry about the future? Why can’t I just enjoy the attention of a young guy while it lasts? This is probably just a little flirtation for him, it doesn’t really mean anything. I’m sure I’m making a big deal out of nothing, like I always do.

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Carazaa · F

Don't be tempted to destroy your future. Jesus is coming very soon. Make sure that you spend time with Christians. Put your eyes on Jesus. If you are going to marry don't you want it to be a man your age who loves God and loves you because of your walk with God? A Godly man would never tempt you to sin, ever.

SW-User

@Carazaa Thank you for your advice, my friend. I’ll give it a thought. I understand your point of view. I never been with any guy after my divorce. Numerous thoughts have flashed my mind like the one you pointed out. However It sounds like there’s some sort of connection between us, so why not see where it leads. He’s gorgeous. He’s also sweet and funny and smart. When I’m with him, I almost forget that he’s years younger than me, almost. Also part of my mind says , Just give the him a chance. Go out, have fun, and see what happens. If we have things in common, the age difference really shouldn’t matter.

Carazaa · F

@SW-User I have been where you are many years ago, big mistake! Everything that glitters is not gold. This life is a test. There are years of discipline from God when we sin, years.. I am done with being disciplined, I serve the risen king and now I have all my prayers answered and life is so good! If this man is a Godly man, and reads the Bible every day, and proposes instead of flirting with you, thenpray if you should marry him. If he is not a Godly man, then a man will witness to him and you don't need the temptation to put your mind off of Christ.
(I edited this because I prayed if marrying a Godly man is even allowed because I got many proposals after my husband left and I wont marry until I am a widow, because it says "whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery)

Carazaa · F

@SW-User I edited the above!

SW-User

@Carazaa Thank you for this advice. This is an important dimension. God loves everyone and I wish and put every efforts to make sure that he walks in the path of God. His past is not important because whatever it may be, what really matter is if I can pray to God and do my bit to help him become a Godly man with the grace of God. I value your suggestion, my friend 🤗

Carazaa · F

@SW-User

God says

"I will be a Father to the Fatherless and a husband to the husbandless"

God is your husband if you don't have a husband. Don't make him jealous!

SW-User

@Carazaa I respect your views. I admire your courage and sincerity in following every Word of God. I am not sure if I am as sincere as you in this regard. I don’t know where we both will end up. At the moment it is difficult for me to apply the break. Yes, you are right, Luke 16:18 clearly states the restrictions. Versus that values the institution of marriage. If people would have followed every verses then there would have been way less divorces happening.