Would you feel comfortable around someone you know they dislike you?

@SW-User
Then best you do is avoid them.

@CookieCrumbs If I know I won’t waste the effort. Some people can’t be pleased.

@cherokeepatti
No, once they are set on how they want to see you, there is no winning that battle.

That’s why I’d rather let them be. Avoid their radar if it’s possible.

But if I have to interact with them, or share a physical space (example work, or extended family setting), I’d be casual and indifferent.

@YourMomsSecretCrush Or family gatherings with the in-laws ;-)

Is it work-related or about a love interest? @SW-User

@SW-User I mean in any way socially 💚 I evade the ones that I know dislike me

Sometimes you need to break the ice if necessary like at work to get things done. Doesn't really have to be really close or anything.

But it it's someone you have a crush on then maybe staying away is the right option. If the interest is mutual you will know sooner or later.

Personally I can't like someone whom I sense some dislike from – in particular if it happens out of the blue.
@SW-User

@SW-User I'm kinda oblivious hehe

@nedkelly I can be, but keeping a distance

@Whodunnit It’s not even about valuing their opinion so much as the trouble they are apt to stir up with lies and innuendoes after being around them even for a very short period of time. I have experience with a sister who does that and I didn’t even realize what was going on till someone told me she was stirring up crap against me. She would take something irrelevant and spin a story and spread it to get other family members hostile towards me even though I was helping them. It was happening at every family holiday dinner. She’d break her neck to get there an hour before I got there telling me what time things would start. By the time I got there I got met with glares by some. I didn’t have a clue what was going on till years later. I made up my mind not to go around anyone on holidays.

@Whodunnit

There's a book on it .. ;-)

@Stillwaiting Damn, and to think I could have gotten in first with my philosophy, lol

@cherokeepatti exactly it's hard to know if someone isn't deceiving you.

@SW-User I picked up the phone at work one morning when it was ringing and someone else picked up at the same time and started talking about me. The boss walked in and I told him to listen. They were talking about me feeding birds at work and how weird I was for having pet birds at home. That’s how I knew. The boss was not happy with either, his daughter and granddaughter were talking.

@Fairydust I think that's the best way to be, but once you know you can't be ok with them 🙁

@SW-User yeah i try not to take it personally, it’s very rare in real life I get that now.

@Menetics only if they're close or something

@Stillwaiting yeah, we can't never know anything. We just can be true to ourselves

@SW-User Exactly. I gotta function around people that I know don't like me in a couple settings. I do me .. and I watch them like a hawk, especially the shadier ones.

@SW-User some people don’t need a good reason, maybe they are reminded of someone else or maybe someone gossiped and turned them against them. Or maybe they are just jealous, which is common for narcissists to dislike people who have things that they don’t.