Aether0Starflux · 22-25, C
I'm going through something similar. I long to feel welcomed, like I actually have a home somewhere. I'm an introvert too, and I like being alone, but if I'm being perfectly honest, I'm lonely. It feels like I'm drifting by myself in an endless void.
I have no idea who told you that you shouldn't be connected to others, but you absolutely should be. We humans, no matter how strong we are, cannot get through life alone. We all need a helping hand, someone who isn't afraid to pull you out of a roaring river when you fall.
And if you need a digital friend, I'm open :)
Sometimes I can't be online for long periods or time, and most days I have a limited amount of time that I can chat since I have real life going on, but I try my best to be online as much as I can.
I have no idea who told you that you shouldn't be connected to others, but you absolutely should be. We humans, no matter how strong we are, cannot get through life alone. We all need a helping hand, someone who isn't afraid to pull you out of a roaring river when you fall.
And if you need a digital friend, I'm open :)
Sometimes I can't be online for long periods or time, and most days I have a limited amount of time that I can chat since I have real life going on, but I try my best to be online as much as I can.
@pripyatamusementpark it's extremely difficult to connect with people when you're genuine and a little dark/quirky/weird. I'm afraid too. It gets tiresome to put effort into a person only to find out they're shallow and/or unwilling to share their true self. Or to be rejected because your authenticity is intimidating. To be the odd one out because you use your brain...
@MarbleMarvel it gets tiresome and my heart is tired
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
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GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@MarbleMarvel The good news is that it's already changing and all will be well in the end. The bad news is that it's going to be a messy ride.
@GeistInTheMachine do you see good in the end?
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@MarbleMarvel Yes. Despite man's best efforts to the contrary.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
I totally understand what you have said. My parents are long past, lost my son to suicide and my daughter alienated herself from me right after my son's death (I raised both by myself), I have been single for 17 plus years, and I am tired of being told just because I am a heterosexual cross dresser that I will never have a woman to share life with.
So, you are not alone in this feeling.
Willa
So, you are not alone in this feeling.
Willa
Friendlyperson · 26-30, F
I am shocked.
Who, on earth, gave you this piece of advice?
I, for one, would never ever tell you this.
Human beings are created to be together... friendships, partners, coworkers, family, community... those are essential needs for a person.
Please try to change this paradigm and allow yourself some respite.
Yes, you do need a social cycle. You do need friends. Matter of fact, we could be friends if you'd like, but it is even better when you have some in real life.
Don't let society dictate your needs, to each their own. To each their needs. Respect yours.
Who, on earth, gave you this piece of advice?
I, for one, would never ever tell you this.
Human beings are created to be together... friendships, partners, coworkers, family, community... those are essential needs for a person.
Please try to change this paradigm and allow yourself some respite.
Yes, you do need a social cycle. You do need friends. Matter of fact, we could be friends if you'd like, but it is even better when you have some in real life.
Don't let society dictate your needs, to each their own. To each their needs. Respect yours.
I've heard so much advice saying I shouldn't want to feel connected to others. I shouldn't want love. I shouldn't want or need comfort or support. I should be an army of one and never complain about the ache in my heart.
Don’t know who the heck told you this but they need to get out of the advice business IMMEDIATELY.
@OlderSometimesWiser I heard SO many times to learn to love myself and be happy alone. It wasn't entirely wrong, and it seemed to work better than continuing to try to make friends. I was told to not feel disappointed when people don't like me, but how do find community when nobody likes you?
I know people meant well, and I shouldn't of listened I guess, but it was all I had.
I know people meant well, and I shouldn't of listened I guess, but it was all I had.
@MarbleMarvel Of course you should love yourself, be independent, enjoy your own company. However that in no way negates the need for connection. It’s only human to feel sad and disappointed when that need isn’t met, but that doesn’t mean fulfilling it is impossible. Might just be you’re in the wrong community. Ultimately it’s up to you to decide whether or not to keep trying. I certainly hope you do. I believe connection is entirely possible. And that you and your son very much deserve the warm, loving embrace of others. 🫂
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@CountScrofula that's how I feel too. I've tried to suppress that need and it's not working. Maybe because I used to know how it felt?
But yeah for years I've been hearing to love myself and enjoy being alone. And okay I mastered that but I feel life has less meaning without sharing.
I have to move to find new opportunities. I've been hesitant. I'm attached to an older version of what life was here. It's not coming back though.
But yeah for years I've been hearing to love myself and enjoy being alone. And okay I mastered that but I feel life has less meaning without sharing.
I have to move to find new opportunities. I've been hesitant. I'm attached to an older version of what life was here. It's not coming back though.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
@MarbleMarvel Oof, yeah I get that. That's a hard decision.
But yeah the notion that we should exist by just being isolated individuals who have to believe REALLY HARD in ourselves is ludicrous. That's just not how humans work. Nobody in human history has ever accomplished anything entirely on their own, we are always building off of others.
But yeah the notion that we should exist by just being isolated individuals who have to believe REALLY HARD in ourselves is ludicrous. That's just not how humans work. Nobody in human history has ever accomplished anything entirely on their own, we are always building off of others.