People that were ghosted, did you ever find out the reason?
Poll - Total Votes: 17
Was ghosted but never found out
Was ghosted and found out
Was never ghosted
You can only vote on one answer.
If you did, what was it?
A few months ago it happened to me.
I was using a different community where people can share posts about anything, and I would often do so.
One day someone picked up conversation with me which would eventually become a regular thing, just talking about stuff like friends.
They always seemed to like having conversations with me, and I believe I always showed interest in them as well, responding to their messages whenever I was free. The conversations didn't stay in "How are you?", they were nice to have.
This lasted for about a month and a few days until one day I received a message from them, apparently in a good mood, saying that when I leave the university I could send them a message.
The only way I could interpret this is wanting to talk more; but once I sent the message later on that I was free... That was the last time I received a message.
I'm sure they didn't die, since ever since they've been frequently appearing online on the messaging app we used. They just- simply stopped talking to me out of the blue.
I didn't say anything at first in case something happened, but after a week I started to get worried.
So then I sent a message saying that if something had happened they could talk to me if they wanted to, but no reply, and it ended there.
I felt hurt. Doesn't anymore, but it would've hurt less if they talked to me before cutting off, and I still wonder what might've been the reason.
The most ironic part of this is-.. A few weeks before this, while we were talking about our experience with therapists, one of the topics they brought up was about what are the things that immediately turn off for you when meeting new people.
Their answer? Being ghosted.
A few months ago it happened to me.
I was using a different community where people can share posts about anything, and I would often do so.
One day someone picked up conversation with me which would eventually become a regular thing, just talking about stuff like friends.
They always seemed to like having conversations with me, and I believe I always showed interest in them as well, responding to their messages whenever I was free. The conversations didn't stay in "How are you?", they were nice to have.
This lasted for about a month and a few days until one day I received a message from them, apparently in a good mood, saying that when I leave the university I could send them a message.
The only way I could interpret this is wanting to talk more; but once I sent the message later on that I was free... That was the last time I received a message.
I'm sure they didn't die, since ever since they've been frequently appearing online on the messaging app we used. They just- simply stopped talking to me out of the blue.
I didn't say anything at first in case something happened, but after a week I started to get worried.
So then I sent a message saying that if something had happened they could talk to me if they wanted to, but no reply, and it ended there.
I felt hurt. Doesn't anymore, but it would've hurt less if they talked to me before cutting off, and I still wonder what might've been the reason.
The most ironic part of this is-.. A few weeks before this, while we were talking about our experience with therapists, one of the topics they brought up was about what are the things that immediately turn off for you when meeting new people.
Their answer? Being ghosted.
