What do you say to someone that is grieving?

Now thus is a tough one she's pregnant and has 6 weeks left.
She said she feels incredibly detached and not even thinking about the new baby that's coming.

When my dad passed I was so relieved due to hue suffering I'm sure people thought I was on crack.
So I'm the worst person for things like this.

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bijouxbroussard · F

The thing is, there’s really nothing anyone can say that will actually make them feel better at the time.
Later, I’ve remembered the people who were kind to me and sometimes it simply was them saying, "I’m sorry, and I’m here for you."
That meant so much. 🥺

CrystalSkull · F

My sister lost her husband a week before her baby was born. It was gut wrenching. It took her a time to bond with her little girl, she was also detached.
Don’t say anything, just be there and check up on her. There’s nothing you can say to make it better. Listen to her and offer practical help. That’s all you can do. It’s very sad. I a, sorry for your friend.

RenFur · 70-79, M

Well, there's this from the once-leader of the free world:

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bijouxbroussard · F

@CrystalSkull Eric Trump.

bijouxbroussard · F

@CrystalSkull

CrystalSkull · F

@RenFur @bijouxbroussard I am sorry I did not know what Trump’s sons look like and neither that he even had two.i understand it’s a huge deal in America and I’m not minimising those concerns but would you believe here most people don’t talk about him, care who his sons are or even generally follow the news on his personal antics.

Anyway the big game hunting is a policy that is terrible as I personally don’t get the joy people get from hunting. That being said hunting is popular here, animals like gazelle, and zebra. People eat the meat and pay to hunt and also pay a fine if they injure the animal first. Big game hunting is generally frowned upon. And costs a lot of money. Sadly people will do anything for a buck and mostly from my understanding it’s foreigners who do big game hunting. It’s disgusting, killing an elephant is like killing a human being in my opinion.

The buffalo are hunted and they make jerky from their meat and eat it, however it’s known as the most difficult animal to hunt as they are super aggressive.
I just hate it all round and I especially hate big game hunting. It’s horrible and cruel. But it happens.
The smaller scale hunters do a lot for conservation and reputable companies are very concerned with the ethical treatment of the animals. It brings money into the country, gives people jobs and creates tourism. If there is anything to say in their defence at all.
Sorry that was a long rant, I just hate hunting all round. Bottom line , Africa makes a lot of money from hunting. Sadly.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Just tell them you are there for them. The next move is theirs.

SlaveEt · 36-40, F

It's okay to feel whatever they are feeling. Those emotions can change and fluctuate all over the place and that's okay too. I just try to remember that my loved one would want me to be happy again, to remember them, yes, but not stop living my life. The hurt and loss never goes away, we just grow and learn how to carry it without it consuming us.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

The baby is a 'theoretical' presence in her life at the moment.
She's dealing with the ante feeling of it.
Grief is obviously a 'real' visceral feeling for her.
And that's probably why it occupies more of the 'present' to her mind.

My only concern is that this grief doesn't turn into post natal depression after the baby's born.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Picklebobble2 sorry I've taken so long to reply these last few days have been crazy.
I totally get that, it's my worry too, she miscarried earlier in the year and now this. It's rough, really rough.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

I would just leave them be.

AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

All natural feelings. When there's nothing to say, I send a gift or make them something just for them. Send A message that you're there for them 🖤

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Just let her know you will be there for her and that’s really all you can do

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@iamonfire696 thank you x

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