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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
Ferric67 · M
@FoxyQueen I see what your challenge is
Finding a partner who shares your vision, so you have someone to go forward in sync with in life
Having....Common goals, ambitions and ideals
Hardly someone who is undesirable
Perhaps the pool of men are the ones not up to your standard, by default, are not the ones desirable by you. You can't create someone's ambition for them, they must foster and feed that hunger.
Got me foxy?
Finding a partner who shares your vision, so you have someone to go forward in sync with in life
Having....Common goals, ambitions and ideals
Hardly someone who is undesirable
Perhaps the pool of men are the ones not up to your standard, by default, are not the ones desirable by you. You can't create someone's ambition for them, they must foster and feed that hunger.
Got me foxy?
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
Yeah men don't want someone that challenges them to grow. They want moms.
I don't think it's self deprecating, I think it's honest considering someone does have to actually like you to be together. I can relate in my own way.
Its awesome you don't get disappointed or people please, you're authentic. It gets lonely but oh well.
I don't think it's self deprecating, I think it's honest considering someone does have to actually like you to be together. I can relate in my own way.
Its awesome you don't get disappointed or people please, you're authentic. It gets lonely but oh well.
SageWanderer · 70-79, M
I know how you feel in a way. At my age it’s either wanting to find a sugar daddy or someone to take care of them as we age. Either way, I haven’t met anyone who is into learning or likes to explore. All they talk about are TV shows anymore. Maybe it’s my eccentric nature, I like to read, question and research. My daughter says I’m too young for my age.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@SageWanderer I want a savory daddy. 😉 Someone who wants to help me with projects, talk about all kinds of things from philosophy to what we dream about and more.
I do watch tv, but I rarely talk about what I watch, usually because it is just background noise for while I'm crocheting or doing something else.
Questioning and researching is how one stays young! Learning new things keeps our brain active and vibrant!
I do watch tv, but I rarely talk about what I watch, usually because it is just background noise for while I'm crocheting or doing something else.
Questioning and researching is how one stays young! Learning new things keeps our brain active and vibrant!
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@samueltyler2 Actually, I'm not putting myself down.
I am aware of where i am undesireable. I also know that those parts of me that are desireable are the best and most perfect parts of me. That when I love, that person is my world and my joy is making that person aware as often as possible they are my everything. That I am devoted and nurturing when I am with that person who has managed to see me for not just the things that make me undesirable, but that the things that make me desireable, make me beautiful.
As I often say, "I am perfect in all my imperfections. I just need someone who is willing to emotionally go deep to find my perfection."
I am aware of where i am undesireable. I also know that those parts of me that are desireable are the best and most perfect parts of me. That when I love, that person is my world and my joy is making that person aware as often as possible they are my everything. That I am devoted and nurturing when I am with that person who has managed to see me for not just the things that make me undesirable, but that the things that make me desireable, make me beautiful.
As I often say, "I am perfect in all my imperfections. I just need someone who is willing to emotionally go deep to find my perfection."
val70 · 51-55
I don't know. I'm really not a person to give you advice because I'm in a similar boat. Very much so on first read. Perhaps you need to start loving yourself first again? Seems a dumb reply in the first place, but I've noticed that sometimes loving yourself will make the other seem more at ease and interested enough for the long run. Personally, I need to get myself back in shape and that's a worry upon that
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@DrWatson I can't tell you how many guys literally cannot answer what their hobbies are or what things stir their passions.
Or that they don't feel connected enough to anything, let alone themselves, to even have learned these things about themselves. The most basic of basics of self knowledge.
Like...so after work you go home and just sit in a chair till it's time to go to bed? Then you go lay in a bed till you fall asleep? On the weekends, you just sit in your chair till dark, till it's time to go lay in the dark? How do you fill your time?
Because honestly, if you don't have anything that interests you, you are going to have a very short, uneventful life.
Or that they don't feel connected enough to anything, let alone themselves, to even have learned these things about themselves. The most basic of basics of self knowledge.
Like...so after work you go home and just sit in a chair till it's time to go to bed? Then you go lay in a bed till you fall asleep? On the weekends, you just sit in your chair till dark, till it's time to go lay in the dark? How do you fill your time?
Because honestly, if you don't have anything that interests you, you are going to have a very short, uneventful life.
Northwest · M
Having standards is not undesirable, and neither is wanting to learn and grow. I do, however, understand how this makes you undesirable to someone who wants the status quo.
Amyrakunejo · F
It often helps, to have someone, who is just a good friend. The one that listens, provides feedback, and, a shoulder to lean on.
Thorstormbringer · M
Well said and explained…
Honest and self aware