I just wish I could go to my parents for wisdom.

Sadly, I can't. They don't have anything wise to say. Like. Not a thing. I don't know who to go to for advice. It sucks man. Trying to figure things out on my own. Imagine being parented by them since childhood. Mama beat me up in front of the whole school because her anger couldn't wait. All my parents talked about was NOTHING. I can't learn wisdom from the two people who only talk about their problems, and never about the possibility of solutions. Just empty conversations. Again and again. Everyday on repeat, from waking up to going to sleep. Same old. 30 years and nothing has changed. They have nothing to add, except for more irrational fears.

I am a stupid woman. It does not get any worse than this. My coworkers make sure I'm reminded of that every single day. I wish I was wise. My genes run too strong. I don't know what's right and what's wrong. I have poor forethought and poor foresight and narrow vision of social politics. I'm an extremely nearsighted person. Absolutely stupid. I'm a laughingstock.
I wish I was wise.
I don't even want to be a parent because I don't want to repeat history. I have nothing to offer, just like my parents.

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

It's dissapointing,but not all parents are blessed with wisdom.

My mom can say the wisest things as general life advice. But on the other hand she's also such a narcissist , cruel and cold and just impossible to have a normal healthy relationship with.

My dad is wise in his own little ways, he can call me and say "You need to eat more onions, drink lots water, and take walks and enjoy life with your man"

PeacefulEntity · 61-69, M

I know how you feel because one time I came home from school (now mind you I'm 9-10 years old) and said "I just saw a hummingbird land on a branch"

"Hummingbirds don't have legs!" Was her response. 😳😳🤨🤨

So it's kind of hard to extract wisdom from a person that has that kind of intelligence.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@PeacefulEntity I understand you one hundred percent. I think despite the circumstances we were given, we've made the best of what we could don't you think?

PeacefulEntity · 61-69, M

@assemblingaknob I would say you are correct about that I have obviously grown older (I'm now retired) but have I received encouragement to strive for better education, a better job, or higher positions in companies I might have done better.

As it was I shifted from job to job with no future and I was really lucky at my last job as I was banking money like crazy so when covid took me out I had to survive 9 months before I got a retirement check so thank God for the 401K.

If push came to shove I would have to say "No, I don't hate my mother but I hate what I have become, because of her lack of parenting skills. Also her history which destroyed her before she even became a parent.

darkmere1983 · 46-50, M

i can't relate to anything you wrote, my family is great and i am great.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@darkmere1983 that's awesome man!

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

You can talk to us

Convivial · 26-30, F

Read.... You'll be surprised what you can learn... Good luck

PeacefulEntity · 61-69, M

@Convivial I have been reading for the past 50 plus years.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@Convivial I been reading. I'm still stupid.

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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@Raaii thank you Raaii.
This means a whole lot.
It's true, change does start with us. It's baby steps. We can do our best :) that's awesome! I suddenly feel a lot better:)

Raaii · 22-25, F

@assemblingaknob [c=BF0000]you should feel better and root for yourself, ths coworkers downgrade you but don't you think you're a responsible and important part of med community there
I'm sure you've helped many people
You care and you're sincere
You're ofcourse lovable
Please don't feel low 🙇‍♀️[/c]

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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@Jonjdw smart people lie. That's what they do. And then there are subtle traits that they can't put a finger on. It's an amalgamation of very tiny traits that are hard to identify, and hence to imitate. A lot of it is dead and gone with the development years of life...the first 5 to 10 years. Time that can't be brought back to be redeemed. Not everything can be taught to an adult.

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