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Had someone ignore my message for several days.

Then we spoke a little and then I became busy for several days.

I responded apologising, which she ignored and so I messaged again. I got a blunt response and explained a very legitimate reason for having taken a while to respond. She had in her introduction an explanation that it’s fine for her to have late replies because she has a life out of this.

I remained calm and polite telling her why I was busy and also that I sometimes don’t get WiFi connection. Accused me of yelling at her (over text) for my message in which I apologised and politely asked her to elaborate on her experience she shared with me.

Still remained polite,and told her that I’m glad that she had a counseller she can discuss things with. At no point did I ‘yell’, swear, accuse etc. Naturally, she blocks me. I don’t know why it’s difficult for some people to just take accountability ‘I overreacted, I consciously ignored you for several days whilst feeling it okay for me to do it to others, thanks for explaining why you are busy and for still getting back to me’.

I don’t know why basic decency is difficult.

I’m still going to be polite and value people but urgh why are some like that? It’s a real person on the other end, with feelings
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
This place is absolutely no different than the world outside of the Internet.

Everyone has issues on or off the Internet. The only thing different is you can see their body language off the Internet and react accordingly.

If you have a problem here, highly likely you will have the same problem off the Internet.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@TheEmperor so you know, the other person, loves to troll me!

That speaks rather loudly about him.
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@DeWayfarer Nah. I'd say you are the troll. I don't like how you've been talking to me.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@TheEmperor sorry. I wasn't attempting to offend you.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
I try to keep things very chill and casual on private messaging here. You just never know what is going on with someone on the other side of the keyboard.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
@TheEmperor I would say you never know what someone is going through until you walk a mile in their shoes. Honestly it sounds like you aren't clicking. I'd let the conversation die.
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@SumKindaMunster well she blocked me to avoid having to try to explain how I ‘yelled’ at her over text xD so the conversation is dead
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
@TheEmperor Well I guess it was taken out of your hands. Sorry, it is annoying, I wouldn't take it personal though.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
In all honesty. Would you put up with any of this if she wasn't attractive?
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@TheEmperor Dude. Your doormat energy is sensed all the way through my screen.

You act as if she was your wife and you were late to the wedding ceremony.
Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25
@TheEmperor you're a true gentleman and I actually relate to this type of raising. However, I assure you, not everyone was raised to be understanding, respecrful, and polite. Furthermore, it seems that we both were raised without having been taught self respect when others start to disrespect us. It happens a lot and I assure you that this chick doesn't deserve as much respect and attention as you give her

It may seem odd but truly, some people do not deserve you to be so understanding. After a point of one sidedness, it really becomes overreaching and lowering oneself and you deserve more respect than she may be giving you. This is what dragonfly is sharing in a less watered down way but it is the same message
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@Queendragonfly How do act like that? If I acted like that, then i would have told her it was fine for her to to take days to respond, and then it was fine for her to immediately fault me for taking the same amount of time to respond. I treated her in kind. I then stood up to her. I did so politely, you wont change that, i believe in being both polite but assertive. And she didn't like that I was also holding her accountable so she scarpered.
It is a common experience here, I think. I have had similar experiences in the past. Basic decency is really not too much to ask, I agree.
It's rare I message anyone anymore
I'm too busy for drama
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
Yeah I was busy with work. But apparently she was the only one allowed to be busy.@Chernobylplaygrounds
Blondily · F
She sounds like an emotional time bomb and unfortunately you were her victim. Be happy she blocked you!
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
The site will never change! Nor will peoples expectations.
Standard internet behaviour tbh. People are weird. You'll get a few of those for every normal, well balanced person. Be thankful for the block, it's clearly doing you both a favour.
TexChik · F
With a face like yours… who could blame her? 🤷🏻‍♀️😉
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@TexChik what?
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Maybe be less attached to things.
Forgive and move on, I'm assuming you have never met her, thereby you have not been in close proximity with her, it'll br easier to detach yourself and get on with your life; please note do not appear desperate.
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@Nihiless oh I have no interest in her like that haha not my type at all, the fact that she was a woman isn’t really relevant, it’s just that she was a she out of chance.
Chickie · F
No one deserves bad behavior like that but looking at your previous post I wonder if she was on to something.
TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@Chickie yeah? The dinosaur post? Explain how that means it is okay to act like that?
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TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@Eloach did you not read the part where I mentioned being completely polite to her and not liking the fact that she had done exactly to me what she accused me of, yet I was the only one remaining polite about it?
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TheEmperor · 26-30, M
@Eloach was there a part where I said anyone owed me a response? The issue was her hypocritically going overboard when it was me not responding to her for a few days.

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