Ever Noticed

I've read through the responses so far and want to thank you for posting this because you made me stop and examine a few things.

What kept coming to me was the question, "do you (I) admire the relationships people with low self-esteem have?" And my answer was that I don't, for the most part. Those relationships are often codependent and based on fragile egos, which almost always leads to poor communication, power struggles and more.

So, what do I want in a relationship? (I asked myself) And the answer kept coming back, "I want the guy who treats me as well as I treat him."

For me, this means I do have to love myself well and good, to have the relationship I want, and demonstrate confidently and kindly through my words and actions how I like/desire to be treated.

It sounds a little cookie-cutter, I know, and I don't believe life is at all "cookie-cutter neat." But I do believe (as the law of physics proves) the higher the vibration, the more positive the attraction.

Soft breezes to you, my friend.

There is some truth to that. It's similar to, you must love yourself before you can love others. A little truth to that too.

I think it's other people's kindness that brings out the best in me. It might be just me though.

Your thoughts are really interesting.
Idk how others think exactly

They can do what they want to do but if someone would ask me for an advice then i would say: love yourself firstly
Doesn't matter if male or female.

I want to be strong and i want to love myself and then fall in love. If i fall in love before i love myself i could be emotionally dependent on that person. And this happened to me before. I don't want to make the same mistake two times.
That is it.. But everyone is different

Yes! This!

I agree 100%.

I am so sick and tired of being told that it's all my fault.

I love myself enough to think I deserve better than to be all alone for the rest of my life, or else having to settle for someone I wouldn't have picked if it was up to me.

I love myself enough to know that there are a lot of good things about me; and that I could be a wonderful partner; and that some man might be lucky to have me.

F--- the people who say, "You have to love yourself first." They have no clue what my feelings about myself are. I love myself. Now it's time for somebody I could love, to love me back.

Low self esteem types are typically codependent and they find abusers to love them. I don't think that is good.

Spot on. I abhor that old cliche.

I get the meaning behind it...

But, the love we have for others, especially romantic love, is a totally different kind than we have or would have for ourselves. Maybe it's self respect we need first.

I'm male and I've been told it on a few occasions.

If you have looks or money or power you can get a date regardless of self confidence level.

I don't agree with your initial statement.

True that. Lolol

They have found partners,but are they happy with those partners? I know for a fact that my ex who was a narcissist and I was so happy to flee from has now a wife he micro manages,just like a woman would be controlled in the midle east.I much rather be alone and be my own woman.

Ive seen a lot of guys being told that.

Yes yes yes but what else ?