Ever Noticed

That we never say to single men, "you have to love yourself first before you can find someone to love you?" Only women are told this. It's also BS. Plenty of low self esteem types have partners and spouses. Look around. Look at the people you know or have known throughout your life. Some are super confident and others are not. Some fall anywhere between the two, but regardless where they fall on the confidence spectrum, some have found partners, and others have not. It's a roll of the dice. That's all it is, and you certainly don't have to love yourself. What does that even mean?