Is having kids the end of fun?

Man I'm bored. We all see different things. But man, I am bored of the same things every weekend. Being banned from doing anything but drinking. Thank criticized that I'm gaining weight from drinking. Well if i still had the chance to get away and do some of the things I liked to do that included recreation other then drinking. Maybe I wouldn't drink so much.

@hideout: ah the demon drink!
Get busy in other ways

@yeronlyman: I can do without drink. But I can't do without altering my state of mind one way or another. I miss finding myself in the forest. I want to trip out again. I need friends and the freedom to have a weekend unbothered sometimes. But I live too far away from the people I work with. And I work nights. So I don't really make friends easily.

Sounds like you are in a rut...you wanna do something, but you are bitchin when she suggested the comedian. Sounds like it's your way or no way
But hey..I've been through that too. 10 yrs is quite a while-> just compromise and go with the flow, instead of being negative.

I feel I do all the compromise. I know should have been more receptive to the idea. It could be fun. But I want to get weird in the desert, not sit nice in my seat and laugh at the jokes.

Well ...go after the show

Yeah. I would rather be without either. I don't know that I am a go out party every weekend type. I was adverse to overly loud bars. I liked smoking a j with some friends. Listening to some music and maybe having an adventure or two. And definatly wanted to experiment more with sex. Bored, bored, bored.

I wanted to travel and go out whenever I wanted, sleep as much as I wanted and live child free for so many years. That's why didn't want to have kids until I was older. I still don't have kids but i'm old enough now for the responsibility of kids if it happens.

I felt like i hit the pause button long enough. I wanted us to get married first. But when it happened, I was like. Okay. Just a little earlier then expected. But in hindsight there were some big problems earlier on that never got resolved. And some things I wanted to do; that I didn't realize would be taken off the table. Also: while my wife is still thin and beautiful, I'll never forgive myself for doing that to her perfect stomach.

Youll be ok. Its just a new reality.

I know I'll be okay. But will I ever be happy again.

@hideout: you will be. I get where your at right now I think. Focus on your children. They chang people. Theyll change you and her and the dynamics of your relationships.

Pretty shitty phase. Maybe if i embraced the last phase better. Should have finished college sooner. That would have helped. Been more willing to spend my money rather then safe it. Should have got a cheaper car instead of making payments. Should have done more concerts or festivels. Should have gone to that rave with my friends. Should have experienced life.

Yeah. About all I can do at this point. We both don't listen to what the other person is saying.

@hideout: Pretty common issue .. has to stop being the two of you against each other and become the two working together to make things better. Happier has to mean both of you are happier ..

Yeah. We keep banging our heads against the wall. The therapy didn't help. But we had so many other issues at that point. And we never really went consistently.

One is a good number. More then 1 is a disaster.