@Abovelimit I don't private message
Says so on my profile

@Abovelimit excellent!

@ScreamingFox “Growth was needed to survive” — that line says a lot without saying everything. Some people grow because it’s trendy. Others grow because life demanded it. The second kind of growth creates depth.

I admire that you “do what you have to do and let the rest go.” That’s strength. That’s wisdom. That’s someone who understands control versus surrender.

Now I’m curious — when you feel yourself outgrowing a version of you, what’s usually the first sign?

@Abovelimit I know it's time when I feel dishonest and uncomfortable. It's a very slow process sometimes and I try to be patient with my doubts so that when I do make changes it's secure. But I know I need the growth when I feel untrue to myself. I feel like I'm manipulating too much to maintain a hidden version of myself. It all feels terribly wrong and I'm constantly frustrated.

Control and surrender is the balancing act. What can I do/action + what just needs to fall away/surrender, if that's what you meant.

From there I make my moves. I let it hurt. Make a few mistakes. It's all learning. All progress.

@ScreamingFox There’s something deeply honest about that.

When you start feeling “untrue” to yourself… that’s not weakness. That’s alignment trying to correct itself. Most people silence that feeling. You listen to it.

The fact that you’d rather let it hurt than live in something that feels dishonest? That’s integrity.

Control what you can. Surrender what you can’t. And trust that discomfort is often the doorway, not the warning sign.

You don’t grow recklessly — you grow consciously.

That’s rare.

@eyeswideshut Exactly—that moment when you realize the change was for you is such a powerful shift. 🌟

It’s funny how growth can feel intimidating from the outside, but when you’re actually ready, it almost flows effortlessly. That “why did I wait so long?” feeling usually means you’ve been quietly preparing for it all along.

It sounds like you really owned it—and that kind of self-responsibility is inspiring. What’s the biggest thing you noticed about yourself after making that change?

@Abovelimit
Much happier
Calm
Focused
Positive
Peaceful
Smarter, lesson learned

@CrazyMusicLover That’s a good way of looking at it 👍🏻

@DelightfulyDelectablyDelicious Maybe it's because I didn't put conscious effort into changing. It just happened and I couldn't do anything about it.

@CrazyMusicLover It’s interesting how that happens, life has a way of guiding us without us needing to force it. Almost like the universe knows what we need before we do 😀

@Jenny1234 Every ten years?

That’s not random. That’s evolution.

Some people drift through decades. Others transform with them.

Who are you becoming next?

@Abovelimit i’m not sure what I would call her, but she’s going to be really amazing

@Jenny1234 I like that.

You don’t even have a name for her yet… but you can feel her coming.

That’s how real evolution works. You sense the next version before you fully step into her. She’s not a stranger — she’s you, just braver… clearer… less willing to shrink.