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Am I a negative person?

I'm constantly being told that I am by a family member and I don't understand what he wants from me it's ridiculous he basically brings the worst out of me and convinces me that everything is wrong with me and my behavior even when something is none of his business.
Personally I perceive you as an incredibly strong person who motivates me to find the little silver linings and enjoy the simplest of things in life just by the way you are portraying your experiences (i.e. having little walks,enjoying comforting drinks etc.)
You don't have to be that person all the time and I have seen a glimpse of your multitudes but the most lasting impression I have of you is those qualities. Maybe part of it is my own desire to see life in a more romantic way and to enjoy it more so that affects my perception. Maybe that is where his own perception stems from ,his own mindset,goals,experiences. In fact that's probably true for the way most people perceive you , and each other in general. So I wouldn't worry or put too much importance on it. In fact I highly doubt you even know who you ultimately are yourself. I don't think anyone knows for sure. Life changes and shapes us along all the time. What's important is to keep what makes it worth living. At least for me . And if someone interferes with that ,well I just quietly remove myself from them ..
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
No I don't think you are a negative person. I think of you the exact opposite, that you are a very positive person. He needs to try to go through your struggles for an hour, and then let's see how positive he is going to be.
Carissimi · F
Stay away from him. Never be with people who bring out the worst in you. Life is too short for that nonsense.
MissNoahLenFoxx · 31-35, F
Ask them directly what makes you negative and listen to everything he lists. Call him or text him with a direct question “What are the reasons why you think I’m so negative?” (So you don’t have to awkwardly stand there lol) Then say “okay” and walk to your room. Contemplate the list and then if you feel like he is wrong, write on a piece of paper reasons why he is wrong. If you find out that he might be correct, write out on a piece of paper reasons he is right. Make the personal adjustments, atleast be mindful of them, research how to reframe your mind…. In either scenario you don’t necessarily have to tell him anything about what you’ve concluded unless you think it will actually make a difference. You don’t owe him anything. This is your life and your exercise to make you the best you for yourself. (Being the best you will naturally make your life improv over all) @PiecingBabyFaceTogether
AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F
Some people like to feel superior, he sounds like someone who has no idea what it's like to be you and he's chipping away at you in an effort to feel better about his own inadequacies.

Tell him to fork off and point out he has no concept of what it's like to be you.
@AntisocialTroll Exactly he is constantly watching me to catch every tiny mistake I do even if it's something he doesn't like and I am always the problem.
AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F
@PiecingBabyFaceTogether One of the many things others just don't understand is how the breathing problems affect your mood, I know myself that when my breathing is bad I'm not "just! miserable and depressed by it, it has an effect on my brain and I get a very large sense of doom and doubt my ability to survive much longer, when my breathing is better I just don't have that no matter how unwell I am.

It makes sense when you think about it, the lack of oxygen physically affects your brain and no amount of "positivity" or other shite can change that, only thing that helps is sorting the cause and increasing your oxygen levels which as we both know is often a slog through them trying different meds until they get it right for you.

I don't think you are a negative person at all I think you are incredibly positive but like me when you can't breathe as well it affects your brain similarly.

Others have absolutely no concept of what it's actually like, lucky them lol but breathing is such a simple automatic thing for most that it's not really their fault if they don't get it but that doesn't give him the right to chip away at you.

Tell him to fork off...
Hard to tell without knowing the details of your conversations with him. I guess he has his own issues and maybe for some reason he expects you to support him, to help him face his own issues.
You strike me as being fierce and strong and determined and courageous. 🙂

And I hope you’re able to limit contact with this person. Don’t let anyone interfere with your fabulousness!
smiler2012 · 56-60
[@piecingbabyfacetogether ] 🤫this family member need too butt out of your business and pack in the nit picking criticism
GlitterEater · 36-40, F
No. That's an insane take. You're like one of the least negative people I can think of.
No, I don’t see you as negative at all. When there are challenges, you address them with courage and strength, in a very positive way.

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