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Why don't we men support each other?

When we men are suffering and going through hard times we have no one to rely on or even talk to right? I was just thinking, why don't we ever talk and support each other? Its clear we can't open up to women even if they say we can but bros understand bros. We know what each other goes through. We understand the pain and hardships, we can relate and empathize. So why do we ignore each other? I'm not trying to be melodramatic or anything, its not like I've suffered trauma or loss of a loved one but I do understand pain. I understand loneliness, feeling worthless or unwanted, feeling like you're not enough that you'll never amount to anything, feeling that all the work and effort you put in is wasted and goes unnoticed. I've had sort of a crappy year, sort of why I'm spilling my guts. I wouldn't say I've had a great life but neither have I had a terrible life, I'd say more of a drab and mundane life. Devoid of meaning and purpose, just grinding away, stuck on survival mode.
Longpatrol · 31-35, M
I am blessed that I have a number of close male and female friends who I can laugh and cry with. No shame, just...companionionship.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@Longpatrol lucky you. hope it stays that way for ya
Matt85 · 36-40, M
We need to start a revolution.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@Matt85 nah bro, I just think we need to look out for each other
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
Truth is men and women are different in ways where we would feel more supported by someone who understands.

I would listen, and I'm sure there's things I would understand, but I don't know what it's like to be a man. I think men struggle to relate on deeper levels because of how society has dictated men, just like they do women. We all feel the pressure, we should all have relief.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
It's not good for reproductive success
JestAJester · 31-35, M
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@JestAJester These types of men do not reliably mate so they do not pass on this trait. A man who is vulnerable among other men is likely highly conscientious which lends itself to being cautious to a fault. This lack of drive for a primal fulfillment is not attractive to women with that goal because he does not share it nor could he make good on the role since his alternative pursuits of success do not facilitate it. This man is more likely to take in an orphan or raise the child of another out of empathy for humanity. The women who do find him attractive will share his genetic demise because they think alike.
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
See this is my gripe with the "Men's Rights Movement". All they do is whine about feminists and LGBT people, when there actually are areas where men are screwed over socially.

We're told to always be stoic, bottle up our emotions and not open up. Am actual Men's Rights Movement would support men when they have struggles and allow a space where we can open up about issues affecting is.
@basilfawlty89 Exactly. The men's rights thing is pushing bullshit stereotypes about dudes. And it pisses me off the most because it's men doing it to themselves.
Some do actually..
During the course of my anger management group therapy, they introduced the concept of the "man box". It's a box in which many men live, because they think that the only possible definition of a man is someone who fits the stereotypes kept in the box.

One of those stereotypes is that men don't have feelings. Men who are sensitive, show their emotions, or talk about their emotions are called sissies or worse.

 
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