I think im at a point in life im just over it

The older we get the less we want to deal with all the nonsense.
Maybe that’s it ?

I don't know the background of the story with your friend, but if what she does doesn't involve or affect you personally, then try not to comment on it. I've learned that people will always do whatever they want anyway. It's not worth the discussions if you're not personally involved XD If she asked your opinion and then treats you this way, then I wouldn't really bother with her much anymore lol, but that's just me XD

Your boss sounds awful :/ As a boss they shouldn't get involved in work drama, let alone stir it up 😅 hope it gets better!

I would like to hear what you are doing to change the connections you are making between the points in your life. I fully understand the feelings you have about how people may be "starting to not like you." What are you doing to change that?

For example, when you told your friend what you didn't like what she was doing...

1. Did she ask you for your advice or point of view?
2. Did you share your preferences for how she behave as genuine advice or judgment?
3. Did you ask your friend why she was behaving the way she was before injecting your desires for the way she should behave?
4. Did you spend any time listening to her?
5. Did you offer her any emotional support or just thrust your advice on her?

You claim everyone around you is emotionally draining to you. Perhaps you don't realize, but we each choose the people who are around us. Perhaps your orientation lends itself for you to be alone. Are people commanding you to feel hurt and bitter, or do you have any control how you choose to feel?

I'm concerned about your self-absorbed view of the world. Maybe it would be better for you to be alone. That is not necessarily a punishment. But, maybe... perhaps... you just need to learn how to be around people by considering things that account for your feelings, but also theirs at the same time.

The older we get the more we realize how important it is to be loving and treat people the way we want to be treated regardless how they treat us. The Golden Rule 🙂... That leads to feeling great about ourselves and joy in our hearts and good relationships!

I feel similarly. I’ve had enough of some friends clinging to me and dumping all their shit on me when they need to deal with it. It hurt my feelings and felt really inconsiderate when I asked for space and they assumed I hated them. Drama. I was asking to care about myself and that’s a problem? Naw. I’m not very well liked anymore and I’m good being alone because I’m know, my refusing to enable their drama and inability to help themselves is the kindest most honest thing I can do. I do care, but I can’t be drained by other when I don’t expect or want someone to fill me up. I want to be me. I’ve gotten through hell and I know what I’m made of, I know the connections I want and I can’t stand to be around people who want you to fix them. No no no.

Haters will be haters, don't let them bring you down to their level, or get under your skin. You are better than they are, and that's why they try to snub you. Nothing would make them happier than to see this post, and know that they got to you. Ignore the haters, and you've won, once you've won, they can't get to you anymore.

Trying to intentionally pi$$ People off takes energy. You are draining yourself more. Maybe it’s part Them, but maybe it’s part you too. Evaluate and reflect.

I stay away from drama ...so I'm not well liked amongst my co workers ...because I won't engage with them on the gossip that ensues ...it's super annoying and I just want no part of it ...I don't care about being liked to be honest and never have

You keep being you! And remember those who do care, rest in their friendship. Your old boss could be jealous and that’s her problem. Or she may have a lot of her own shot going on :-(

Drama queens love drama, they got to have drama in their lives.. They got to make mountains out of mole hills. If there isn't any drama then they got to make it out of nothing..

That unfriending on FB part was funny.

In company like this it's wise to stay alone. It's difficult, however, to tell why you're feeling hurt and bitter by people. Is it genuinely their fault, or are you going through a phase of something?

I can so relate to this
Very much so

Thanks for bc

Some people just don’t grow up and don’t like to be told ehst they are doing is wrong. They looking for people to agree with their actions and don’t want to be told otherwise.

Your old boss seems immature and unprofessional.