I think im at a point in life im just over it

I dont filter what i say so much anymore and im starting to see how people are starting not to like me. Im just sick of the b.s.

I literally disagreed with some things a friend of mine was doing and she just ignored my last messages for a week now. So i asked her why is she ignoring me? Then her sister unfriends me on FB... but i mean she has a lot of issues shes intentionally trying not see

Then i go into work as a keep in touch day to make a little extra money on my maternity leave and even though a lot of people were happy to see me my old boss wasnt. Shes tried stirring up drama for me in the past. I told her she will be seeing me more often now as im using my KIT days, just to piss her off more, but its so draining. I feel like everyone around me is so emotionally draining and makes me feel so hurt and bitter inside. Maybe its better to be alone

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

I would like to hear what you are doing to change the connections you are making between the points in your life. I fully understand the feelings you have about how people may be "starting to not like you." What are you doing to change that?

For example, when you told your friend what you didn't like what she was doing...

1. Did she ask you for your advice or point of view?
2. Did you share your preferences for how she behave as genuine advice or judgment?
3. Did you ask your friend why she was behaving the way she was before injecting your desires for the way she should behave?
4. Did you spend any time listening to her?
5. Did you offer her any emotional support or just thrust your advice on her?

You claim everyone around you is emotionally draining to you. Perhaps you don't realize, but we each choose the people who are around us. Perhaps your orientation lends itself for you to be alone. Are people commanding you to feel hurt and bitter, or do you have any control how you choose to feel?

I'm concerned about your self-absorbed view of the world. Maybe it would be better for you to be alone. That is not necessarily a punishment. But, maybe... perhaps... you just need to learn how to be around people by considering things that account for your feelings, but also theirs at the same time.

FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays · M

@MarkPaul Good points, MarkPaul. I see you've stayed current with your continuing education requirements. Your advice incorporates the latest evidence-based strategies.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 36-40, F

@MarkPaul
No she didnt ask for my advice she was more so complaining and i was saying my point of views that she didnt like. Such as, shes expected to work from hom with a toddler and newborn. I told her thats not realistic and she disagreed. Also she doesnt want her daughter to start school she thinks she can also homeschool as she works from home. Now she sees that was only wishful thinking but when i posted this she was delusional.

Genuine advice but i think he could have been taken as judgement

Yes. I reached iut asking if she was ok hiw she was doing hows her pregnancy 🤰 entire convo was if she was ok hows life going for her

I listen to her a lot like i always ask how's shes doing. Ive always been the friend to vent to so its just normal for me to give my perspective but i think this time she didnt want to hear it as it was something she didnt see a way out of

Yeah ive always been emotionally supportive

And on the contrary, im not self absorbed. I think i give so much im running on empty so yeah i needed a time out. Im also a new mom and emotionally and mentally drained but i try to still check in on people i love and help but i was just so drained