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LukeTheDuke · M
But you have the power too. @xixgun
BeefySenpie · M
LukeTheDuke · M
This makes a lot of sense. But equally, a lot of people would actually like to rekindle friendship but are just standing on their pride and want you to make the first move. @BeefySenpie
BeefySenpie · M
@LukeTheDuke That's just being stupid
LukeTheDuke · M
What’s stupid? @BeefySenpie
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
LukeTheDuke · M
Thats very commendable that you would help if they needed it. @MasterofNone
goliathtree · 56-60, M
LukeTheDuke · M
Let’s say it was a really serious falling out ? @goliathtree
goliathtree · 56-60, M
@LukeTheDuke shot my dog serious or screwed me over serious. Shot my dog serious I wouldn't have an interest. Screwed me over serious....I'd probably call.
Of course if he shot my dog, he would already be dead....
Of course if he shot my dog, he would already be dead....
LukeTheDuke · M
@goliathtree Absolutely. No one should get away with shooting man’s best friend.
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
Odd, this very scenario happened to me just last November. A longtime family friend named Web (short for Webster) had a severe falling out with me and all my relatives. After several years of no longer associating with him, Web was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer last year and was placed in hospice. My father decided to say goodbye to him even though they are no longer friends.
LukeTheDuke · M
This is the only real life example I received. I think, in reality, many people wouldn’t know what they would do if really faced with the situation. @BlueMetalChick
ExperienceDLT · M
LukeTheDuke · M
Very possible@SW-User
DayDreaming2 · F
LukeTheDuke · M
Then why not make up before it came to that? @DayDreaming2
DayDreaming2 · F
@LukeTheDuke I believe all the hurt I feel would just melt away, and I would be there for them in any capacity they would need me
LukeTheDuke · M
Ahh, you’re soft-hearted. @DayDreaming2
stratosranger · M
LukeTheDuke · M
So why not call before it comes to that? @stratosranger
stratosranger · M
@LukeTheDuke That was not the original question.
LukeTheDuke · M
I’m discussing. But if that’s not your thing, then fine I suppose. @stratosranger
NightsWatch · M
LukeTheDuke · M
Lol 😂 A solidly decisive answer.@NightsWatch
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LukeTheDuke · M
Why not? @missbeez
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LukeTheDuke · M
Understood. @missbeez
No I'm no longer speaking with them.. don't you mean ex friend? 😂😂
Actually i dont have any such friend. Im still friends with my friends and the others i don't consider as friends..
But i wanna know why do you ask? What happened in the first place that they were so disagreeable or were you the disagreeable one and how do you even know they are ill? Its more a rhetorical question.. i don't really Need to know.. maybe they aren't that great of friends if they fall out over that.. like idk
Actually i dont have any such friend. Im still friends with my friends and the others i don't consider as friends..
But i wanna know why do you ask? What happened in the first place that they were so disagreeable or were you the disagreeable one and how do you even know they are ill? Its more a rhetorical question.. i don't really Need to know.. maybe they aren't that great of friends if they fall out over that.. like idk
LukeTheDuke · M
No I don’t mean ex friend, as you can’t fall out with an ex friend. Re-read.
It’s a question to explore a moral dilemma.
How would a person know - through a mutual contact. It’s just rhetorical, it doesn’t really need to be dissected. What’s more interesting is people’s thought processes on the moral issues.
@SStarfish
It’s a question to explore a moral dilemma.
How would a person know - through a mutual contact. It’s just rhetorical, it doesn’t really need to be dissected. What’s more interesting is people’s thought processes on the moral issues.
@SStarfish
@LukeTheDuke i don't think its a moral issue. I think someone (or both) of the two had an attitude problem (arrogance) that made them stop speaking.. but that’s just my opinion.. real friends wouldn't do that .. there’s some other issue involved .. maybe that coulda been a moral issue.. but just speaking or not speaking isn't imo
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
LukeTheDuke · M
Why? @Fungirlmmm
SW-User
@LukeTheDuke He was my best friend the only one I ever had but not everything can be fixed.
LukeTheDuke · M
SW-User
@LukeTheDuke I wish, I so wish but no :/
LukeTheDuke · M
But that’s the thing about doors (and friendship), they close and they open, even if they have been slammed shut! @SW-User
BalmyNites · F
BalmyNites · F
@LukeTheDuke Thank you, I just believe in ‘do as you would be done by’
LukeTheDuke · M
@BalmyNites absolutely, that’s the principle I live by.
BalmyNites · F
@LukeTheDuke It’s a good principle 🤗
Moonpenny · F
@LukeTheDuke I would put everything aside that we'd fallen out about. It would be forgotten in an instance. Because I would want them to know our friendship was bigger than any differences we'd had. And I would want them to feel they could ask anything of me at such a time.
Moonpenny · F
@LukeTheDuke Well, it's never usually as clear-cut as that, is it? You're not actually waiting for someone to end up on their deathbed. For all intents and purposes, they won't have crossed your mind if you've fallen out. Supposing someone else told you of their bad news, then it's a matter of personal choice how you react. That's just the way I know I would react.
MOONAMONA86 · 36-40, F
LukeTheDuke · M
They had they’re whole life to call if they wanted to repair the friendship. @MOONAMONA86
MOONAMONA86 · 36-40, F
@LukeTheDuke 🤷♀️
LukeTheDuke · M
💁🏼♂️@MOONAMONA86
LukeTheDuke · M
Yes, it’s a very difficult dilemma. @SW-User
JupiterDreams · 31-35
JupiterDreams · 31-35
@LukeTheDuke I'm an empath. I would want to...
LukeTheDuke · M
So why not do it earlier. Why wait until they are on their deathbed?@JupiterDreams
JupiterDreams · 31-35
@LukeTheDuke Depends on the falling out. If they told me off and said hurtful things, that's why I'd wait... But in normal circumstances I'd do it after a few months, if I wasn't feeling panicky.
Steve42 · 56-60, M
@LukeTheDuke Who is saying one shouldn't?
LukeTheDuke · M
That’s the scenario in the question. I want to explore the moral maze. @Steve42
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LukeTheDuke · M
Then why not make amends before it comes to that? @RubySoo
RubySoo · 56-60, F
@LukeTheDuke i always try. Always. Im not good at letting anyone go and hate to leave a friendship up in the air.
Any friendship of mie thats ended and i couldnt make amends was because the other person was not willing to.
Always.
And actually...id more likely write than call.
Any friendship of mie thats ended and i couldnt make amends was because the other person was not willing to.
Always.
And actually...id more likely write than call.
LukeTheDuke · M
Why?
@Soossie
@Soossie
LukeTheDuke · M
So why not call before it comes to that? @SW-User
LukeTheDuke · M
Then why not call before it came to that?@daydeeo
LukeTheDuke · M
Why? @jeancolby
Bushmanoz · 61-69, M
@LukeTheDuke in peoples defense, when someone posts a hypothetical question they fill in the blanks to the story themselves, so maybe it just didn't fit with the one you had in mind when you posted
Lostpoet · M
Do I know that they are dying?
fairgame123 · 61-69, C
Call and ask him
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LukeTheDuke · M
Thank you very much. And blessings to you too. @sspec
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