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Socialization, since you don’t see that difference in male and female children. Little boys are quickly taught that crying means losing face and appearing “weak”.
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@bijouxbroussard I’m lucky there.
bijouxbroussard · F
@JustGoneNow There’s a duality in mine, the expectation of being stoic and “tough” among a mainstream culture where one’s life is not valued very much and a subculture that has had very little cohesion except during times of crises.
@bijouxbroussard I understand. 🖤🤗
Carver · 31-35, F
Because "real men don't cry."
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@Carver lol😀
Carver · 31-35, F
@Summerbreeze45 It's all macho bullshit. I would argue that a real man isn't so insecure that he's afraid to express his emotions.
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@Summerbreeze45 only real men cry, and only real men talk about the emotions to other men 😊
Men tend NOT to be in touch with their emotional side, as it is seen as a sign of weakness.
indyjoe · 56-60, M
@Snowvixen This true...it's not so much that men are not in touch with their emotional side (men are as emotional as women and vise versa), but it is looked down on and ridiculed by society if they show any emotion with exception to the "tough" aggressive ones (anger, jealousy, and so on. Many men are more afraid of that than the emotions themselves.
@Snowvixen Not all cultures are the same. Norse men are both emotional and fierce. ✌️
It is a learned thing, I believe and is dependent on culture. I never cry from pain. If anything, it’s sadness. I cried much more rarely than any of guys that I knew before my illness. Oh well.
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biologically made that way
Have no clue. If i were forced to guess, i would say hormones. i cried when my grandmother died and when my pets die. and when one of my friends committed suicide. that was a sad day.
@Summerbreeze45 🖤🤗
i feel ya. my oldest son nearly overdosed on benadryl. he was clinically depressed and has dealt with anxiety for quite a while. it was scary as hell. hope your daughter is doing better @Summerbreeze45
Summerbreeze45 · 51-55, F
@YourMomsSecretCrush yes she is and thank you for sharing. I hope your son is doing well and with time, all this will be in the past for both of our children 💙💙
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Most men I know learned early on that crying doesn't solve anything.
In general, I've only seen men cry when:
1) Parents die;
2) Pet dies;
3) Close friend dies;
4) Think they failed their family in some way and can't find a solution;
5) Aren't allowed to see their children after a divorce and are treated like the worst husband and father possible.
In general, I've only seen men cry when:
1) Parents die;
2) Pet dies;
3) Close friend dies;
4) Think they failed their family in some way and can't find a solution;
5) Aren't allowed to see their children after a divorce and are treated like the worst husband and father possible.
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
I am a real man and I cry 😊
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@MsAnnThropy why do I have to lie😊
@Justenjoyit I’m being facetious. 😊
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@MsAnnThropy 😊👍️
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
Hormones (not joking)
Platoscave · F
Its about the more "split" corpus callosum in males.
As a result they are emotionally more cut off from their own experiences.
Probably a Darwinistic thing...maybe because men had physically harder work (and non child-related) to do so maybe it was a survival method, you know..not getting too "involved" with stuff etc...
As a result they are emotionally more cut off from their own experiences.
Probably a Darwinistic thing...maybe because men had physically harder work (and non child-related) to do so maybe it was a survival method, you know..not getting too "involved" with stuff etc...
Platoscave · F
@JustGoneNow maybe like YOU girl!
@Platoscave Naw. I’m a musician. I loved history and science and was a bit of a book nerd in school but my passions took me in another direction. Didn’t kill my curiosity, however. 😉
Platoscave · F
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
Social conditioning. Men are told boys don't cry.
anathemaJack · 46-50, M
🤔
Because men are only allowed to cry when:
a. Their mother dies.
b. Their dog dies.
Other than that, GTFO.
Because men are only allowed to cry when:
a. Their mother dies.
b. Their dog dies.
Other than that, GTFO.
Summerbreeze45 · 51-55, F
@anathemaJack 🤔
Elegy · 46-50
It could be conditioning it could be hormones but I'm also not sure how accurate your assumption is. I think it just appears that way.
Straylight · 31-35, F
Because we can usually get our way when we do?
@Straylight Fuck that. I don’t need my way that bad.
Platoscave · F
@Straylight lol!
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I usually cry at lot before and during my period.
valobasa4ever · F
@SW-User I usually feel horny a lot during my period .
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
Sensitive coochies
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@juiceyangel333 is ur coochie crying?
juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F
@SW-User yeah
FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M
No shame in that game.
Caprice · 41-45, F
Estrogen
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Perhaps it's in part that men (through environmental / societal learning) are quicker to nip the urge to cry in the bud. Or try to at least. Emotions are emotions, and can get the better of anyone. Although, women do go through more times when hormones are crazy... menopause being one big one... and those certainly wreak havoc. I'm suddenly reminded of some tv show we had to watch in like 3rd grade, where this guy with a guitar is singing with a huge grin on his face, "It's alright to cryyyyyyy..... cryin' makes you feeeeeel betterrr... It's alright to cry...." :-)
Summerbreeze45 · 51-55, F
@SW-User lol, your reply just made me laugh
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@Summerbreeze45 haha good :-)
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feelings r gay
some guys keep it in i guess, or some people are just more emotional than others not just women. i saw guys cry lots of times including my granfather or father when something happened.
Quizzical · 46-50, M
Partly social programming, but mainly down to hormones.
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@Quizzical yep
MarmeeMarch · M
because chicks are emotional and need us men to help them -
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toxic masculinity
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@Quizzical you keep saying that but youre only contradicting yourself with this whole "Im not owned im not owned" routine youve got going on
Quizzical · 46-50, M
@SW-User I've not mentioned being owned... What are you talking about?
ItsGonnaBeOk · 26-30, M
most of men think crying makes then less mainly.
eMortal · M
Hormones, powerlessness and form of expression. How else someone like that would show they have reached the tipping point.
You don't need to see a man's tears to know he is crying inside. After all someone has to look strong, to hold the fort.
You don't need to see a man's tears to know he is crying inside. After all someone has to look strong, to hold the fort.
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I have seen men cry legit
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Display rules.
Because men were taught not to cry. Because for some stupid reason, crying is seen as weak, according to their fathers.
GBPackersFan · 41-45, M
If you saw me after my beloved Green Bay Packers lost a game you might change your opinion 😢
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I think we have different strengths, and that's probably a good thing.
abe182 · 46-50, M
It's biology.
abe182 · 46-50, M
@Summerbreeze45 we're not robots 😝 we're all different. Why are some women soft and sweet and others are prickly and abrasive?
Summerbreeze45 · 51-55, F
@abe182 true 😅
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
@Summerbreeze45 I'm not bug... but we are talking about human beings. And in a way, we are still fairly unique from eachother. That's why sociological research (when we are going to look at how people act in society) is always marked with percentages, and it's not "correct science". If we are going to look at the "exceptions" to the "norm" (which will always be there) you can argue that the general statement is flawed, and you will be able to do that with anny sociological study that doesnt have a 100% standing next to the outcome. If you do it all the time, that means that sociologists can never measure annything, and that there are not "tendencies" in humanity. That is a fallacy though, and it's over called the "nirvana fallacy", where a sociologist can never ever present the 100% correct answer and is therefore perceived "flawed" by the person that use that argument
I'm not going to say that "social conditioning" has nothing to do with it. But "hormones" are super important. When a womans' hormones play up, they ussually show a higher sense for emotionality. If you don't believe me, just ask around to a number of males that start hormone treatment to become a woman. And ask them how their moods change. Just ask enough people (like 2 or 3 is not a significant number). Same goes for male hormones, people that use male hormones ussually have a tendecy to become more aggressive. For an even better answer, you should ask a biologist. (wich I'm not) I'm sure there is someone in the crowd.
I'm not going to say that "social conditioning" has nothing to do with it. But "hormones" are super important. When a womans' hormones play up, they ussually show a higher sense for emotionality. If you don't believe me, just ask around to a number of males that start hormone treatment to become a woman. And ask them how their moods change. Just ask enough people (like 2 or 3 is not a significant number). Same goes for male hormones, people that use male hormones ussually have a tendecy to become more aggressive. For an even better answer, you should ask a biologist. (wich I'm not) I'm sure there is someone in the crowd.
Tracos · 51-55, M
narrower tearducts... (really)
Summerbreeze45 · 51-55, F
@Tracos 🤔
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Because they have bigger hearts 🤗
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Nature.