lesbianism & gender confusion Before I start, know that labels dont matter. I'm just trying to...

Nelisme · 22-25, F

Why are you trying to fit yourself in a little compartment. You are you - no two people are alike and there aren’t enough pronouns so we can all have our own. Just be happy with who you are. If you find a girl who is willing to take you as you are, then you’ll be happy. We all have to find someone that’s ok with our looks, our personality and our quirks. Try one of the big dating sites.

Neoerectus · M

You are human. Saw an old term, epicene, in an older British novel which means both or neither, basically.

You love who you love how you love. Period. If labels cause you concern, why bother? Life is too short for stressing the little stuff.

BTW, Merriam Webster has a different, incorrect, definition for epicene ... look to Oxford English dictionary.

Nightwings · F

Well, you said that labels don't matter, in the beginning of your post, so... I think the problem is how you use them to learn about yourself as a person. Labels may help some people to easily explain themselves, but other people are more complex. The labels contradict each other because you have different opposing sides to your sexuality and identity. It will always be harder for you to explain yourself to new people, than it is for those who fit one label. There's nothing wrong with that, complex = interesing. Just don't do the "5-million-labels-thing" please. 😅

You were born female, so nothing should stop you from calling yourself a lesbian. I don't know how those communities feel about when it's the other way around, but it seems simple in your case. Whether or not you're butch, is probably for others to tell you, or you already know. 😄

JonLosAngeles66 · M

It's hard not to get hung up on labels. And your post highlights the complexities in gender identity. In our current society it's still a challenge to be yourself and not need to conform to black and white gender roles and designations. It sounds like you're very comfortable with who you are youre just uncomfortable choosing a label that other people will identify you as. I hope it changes so that people are left to be themselves and feel comfortable with who they are and who they love.

Ynotisay · M

Labels matter to those who either want to put others in a box or those who willingly put themselves in boxes to belong. They don't matter. Just be a person and be with those who attract you. The rest of it is irrelevant.

BohoBabe · M

My dude, you're a typical guy. You like girl on girl action, who doesn't?

WhyThooo · 31-35

You want your cake and to eat it too. Choose to embrace being what you are, female, or not.

ffony · M

You sound like a YouWho :).

SUPERVlXEN · F

You can be whoever makes you feel the best, trans male or a woman loving women. The hell, you can be anything in between. Labels are labels and at times they seem to put on boundaries on ourselves where they should set us free, I hope you find your freedom...

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wildbill83 · 41-45, M

sounds like you're more of a tomboy 🤔

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