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Would you date a trans person

Why or why not
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FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
No, because if I'm going to date a man I want him to be a man, not a woman pretending to be a man.
Same thing for a woman, a man pretending to be a woman isn't a woman.
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
@FreeSpirit1 I would second that.
Belladonna · 41-45, F
Yes, depending on the person. It's all about who they are inside. IDGAF what their genitals look like. If I love them, I love them. <3
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
It's one of those things, sweetie, that some people find quite uncomfortable....

Being trans myself I find that the people I find in my circle are either gay and -sorry if this is a cliche, but it is true certainly in my social setting - complete drama queens (I loathe drama...unless it's on the BBC, honey!) or they're not quite sure of their sexuality.

Then they just cop off with the nearest fully-fledged female....Lol!

Luckily, I have this guy who, I guess, would fit the term Pan-sexual or, more specific, if they look like a girl then I'll treat them as a girl 'cos I fancy girls....that kind of thing. He's always seen me as a woman, I get treated as a woman and we have a lovely emotional, spiritual, intellectual and, yes, sexual connection.

I fear that there aren't many like him about tho, sweetie....and, anyways, hands off ....he's mine!

☺️😘☺️
samanthaX · 46-50, T
@CassandraSissy awe babe, but I don't blame you, he's yours xxxxxxx samantha xxxxx
Budwick · 70-79, M
No.
Because even THEY don't know who they are.
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
@Budwick well they do know who they are since they chose to change there gender.. its just u who cant accept who they are.. in your case anyways..

HI BUDWICK hows the retirement home treating ya
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
So, I've answered the question, being trans myself.....but got totally embroiled - down the rabbit hole - with them obviously being male to female...

...and then, a thought just hit me. They can be either sex, sweetie...

So, would I as a trans female date an individual who is a trans man (ie, used to be a girl...)?

I'm all about personality, in the main, and - I think - I'm a little pan-sexual myself. So a girl transitioning to a man? As long as they were happy, confident, not so self absorbed? I think so.

🤔
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@FreeSpirit1 Oh, it's a little more complex than that, sweetie. There's what you identify AS and what you LIKE. I'm sorry but the whole Caitlyn Jenner thing left me right at the start - not in my circle of interests - but saying what she has said is just, to me, very silly and not really thinking things through.

For example..me! I identify as a woman, ok have a few 'extras' that woman don't have, but I have breasts, no body hair, dress as a woman, live as a woman, work as a woman etc, have a male fiancé, but find it very hard to comprehend the 'gay' tag on myself....because I don't see myself as male! Occasionally I find I have to use that tag, just because of laziness on the other person's part.

If I fancied a woman, then because I identify as a female then surely that'll be that I am a lesbian.

Silly!

Labels? Just good on food and clothing, darling....

😜
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
@CassandraSissy it's not just Caitlyn Jenner it's just that Caitlin is the most famous one we ho has said it, I've seen it many times, a man will transition to a woman stay married to his wife because he said he's not gay, but if your an actual woman and stay married to a woman then you're gay. That's how I see anyway.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@FreeSpirit1 Same here, sweetie! Totally agree!
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sciguy18 · M
@Stereoguy That takes the fun out of everything.
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Yes - 2 for the price of 1💋
Lilymoon · F
No. I want a man. but that doesn't mean I have anything against trans people
joanne1966 · 56-60, T
Yes we can teach each other different things
LookingForIt987 · 56-60, M
Yes, because I don't care about what is or isn't in a potential date's pants (or under their skirt/dress, if that's they're preferred style). I care about what the person is like - what they're interests are, how they treat me, how they treat others, their sense of humor, etc. Whether they have "innie" or "outie" bits isn't a factor. 🤷‍♂️
No, because they have eternal inner conflict. The conflict doesn't seem to resolve with changing identity nor does society approve of their claimed "new" identity. That's a lot of baggage..
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@SoulKey Do you speak from experience? I haven’t known many and none well enough to ask.
Lindaisfun · 31-35, F
I have in the past. Still would. It’s about the person and if you click with the person. Whatever is between their legs isn’t as important as if we are a good match
Sure I don't see why not. I am attracted to females and consider myself straight but I am not particularly worried about what her bottom bits look like. As a photographer I have worked with some trans models that are stunning and beautiful people inside and out. Honestly I would be more concerned about some of my family having an issue with it than I do.
SW-User
Maybe, I don't know. I am homosexual so I am attracted to male bodies. A trans man is going to have a different body than what I am usually attracted to. However, I do not value genitalia and sexual attraction above all other factors in a relationship. I can't rule out being attracted to a trans man or falling in love with them, so who knows.
SW-User
Haven’t been in that situation. The only trans I’ve met were much younger so I wouldn’t be dating them anyway.

If I was attracted to a woman before I knew she was trans i think I would still be attracted. How it might work out after that depends on many other things
Woofles · 26-30, F
Yes, of course. All of these comments are grossly transphobic, but u do u Ig. Labels don't matter as long as the person is great. I mean, genuinely, love is love. No need to be picky about it?
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
@Woofles calling someone a phobic because of who they will or will not date is very strange. If a person doesn't want to date a man dressed as a woman or a woman dressed as a man it's called personal choice not transphobic.
Woofles · 26-30, F
@FreeSpirit1 It seems you do not know what trans people are then.
What you are describing is a person who Crossdresses, or does drag. Trans people are peoples whoes asigned gender or sex dosent corespond with how they see themselves. Gender is something created as a label, or a social construct. Its something that dosent actually exist outside of our minds.
They are not pretending to be anything. They are showing the world who they were born as. We all do that. Descriminating upon them and only them is what is called 'transphobia', something you yourself are practicing, whether you intend to or not.
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
@Woofles I know what trans people are. A trans man is a biological woman living as a man a trans woman is a biological man living as a woman. To say a man who wouldn't date a trans woman is transphobic is just silly, that would be like saying a gay man who wouldn't date a straight woman is a bigot. No matter what a trans person lives as, most people see them for the sex they were born not the gender they are living as and aren't attracted to them. So like I said in my original reply about them dressing a certain way, that's the only thing that would make a trans woman a woman because biologically she's still a man, you can't change your sex, it's impossible and dating comes down to the sex of your partner for 99.9 percent of the population.
It is not accurate to label someone a "transphobe" simply because they are not interested in dating a trans woman/,man Sexual attraction is a complex and personal matter that is influenced by a variety of factors, including physical appearance, personality, and shared interests. People have the right to choose who they date or engage in sexual relationships with based on their own preferences and desires, without being labeled as phobic
DblRaven · 26-30
I dont think I would limit myself because someone was one thing or the other if we had a connection.
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
Yes i would date a girl like me..
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
@Lilnonames I date woman and TGs.. im just really not into men
Carissimi · F
Well, aren’t you the hypocrite! You just criticized @Budwick for his not wanting to date a trans, and yet you don’t want to date men. I have no problem if you don’t want to date men, but it’s a case of the kettle calling the pot black in your hypocrisy. @Chelsiegirl
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
@Carissimi to be honest i really have no idea what to say to you.. but have a wonderful evening and i bid u ado.
Yeah sure but as a friend.
@WomanThoughts I guess rare from place we come from. Since they are considered taboo by the society.
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MyNameIsHurl · 46-50, F
No, I try and stay away from people who are overly concerned with their outer self
No. I look for someone I can rely on, not someone with psychological issues validated by greedy surgeons.
owned · 56-60, M
If she looked good as you I would.😘
AlyssaG · 36-40, T
@owned ❤️
WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T
I would date love romance and marry a trans woman, the reason being that trans women and men are amazing and incredible people and having a trans person in your life is to have a gift from the gods, trans people have the gift of being able to make life and themselves anything thing and anyone they want, they are pure magic
Only if she's pretty.
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@WonderGirl you mean a body with fake b@@bs and a possibly limp pen**.
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Gaysmurf · 56-60, M
More then likely! Truth is if its “real” all that matters r peeps involved r kool with it, social pressure be damned! That said my soulmate is a women, GUYS r all i think about, never say never, if the person is right!!! This 100% adherence to biblical sexuality thing is crazy, the world is just not that black&white is it?

Guys if a women is postop, how would u know?

Any ideas what strait women think, about ftm’s
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itsok · 31-35, F
I don’t think them being trans would affect whether I would or wouldn’t date them.
Strongtea · 26-30, M
I don’t think I would, I think I’d be questioning what they really are.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Might be one of those “don’t know until…” in that situation. I only know one trans person irl and I’m not attracted to them that way.
maturemuff1959 · 61-69, F
Yes as long as they where very dressed neatly and clean kept
oldercanuck1 · 70-79, M
Yes why not ,, if we click and get along life is good ,,,
SW-User
Yes. Absolutely. I think Trans people have a lot to offer the world. :)
Magenta · F
No.
I want the real thing that knows who and what they are.
Slivereyes · 46-50, FVIP
Been there done that it was fun
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ninalanyon · 70-79, T
Of course. It's the personality that counts.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
I always have been straight. Yet I have had many trans gender friends over the last 25 years.

To say date is actually not clear either because I have been the third part of an MFM relationship. And they have had relationships with trans gender people.

I had no objections to it either. They were open it. I just don't run that way. They still were my friends.
sciguy18 · M
At this point, I can’t rule out anyone.
ViciDraco · 41-45, M
Possibly. I've been attracted to non- binary and self identified tomboys in the past.

I identify as straight in so much as I only have physical attraction to biologically female reproductive organs and that I do not find masculine features such as facial hair attractive.

I might be willing to date a trans-man who has not undergone bottom surgery. But i really don't know if it'd be a yes or no until I was confronted with the specifics of that individual. Because at the end of day, everyone is different and I can't just lay down a blanket statement.
Jewels02 · 22-25, F
I never have but would be open to it
4meAndyou · F
I'd have to meet that person to know.
Tonyalovesanal · 51-55, M
Yes, who cares who they identify as.
Torsten · 36-40, M
no because i am straight and you cant choose your sexuality, correct?
Torsten · 36-40, M
@AlyssaG I was thinking bout this question a bit today while I was at work and I guess I should not say "could never date a trans person" because you never really know.
I would be lying if I said I never found a few attractive, so who knows i guess
SW-User
@Torsten This might not come out quite right but I mean this in a good way - your answers on this subject were more civil than I would have imagined.
Torsten · 36-40, M
@SW-User I am mostly always civil though
Carissimi · F
No. I’m a straight female. I’m only attracted to biological men.
No bc I’m married. But even if I weren’t, no. I can’t relate to their experience in any way so I wouldn’t be interested. It’s a pretty significant thing I’d never be able to connect to.
hunkalove · 70-79, M
No. I avoid people who think sex is important.
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
@hunkalove I bet since your wife does not like sex you dont avoid her?
hunkalove · 70-79, M
@Chelsiegirl Not married and never have been.
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
@hunkalove Im the same as u ..I have never been married and i don't plan on it too.. no kids also.. just me..
BlueMetalChick · 31-35, F
Well, no, but I also wouldn't date a cis person. I just don't date 😂
@BlueMetalChick That is fair. I am kind of the opposite.
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Jakefromnj · 46-50, M
Absolutely. If I’m attracted and have a connection with somebody, I really don’t care about their gender.

 
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