Would you rather keep your family and friends, living a lie. Or risk loosing them to live how your heart tells you it wants

Are you sure you're going to lose them? You say "risk", they may surprise you but the bottom line is it's your life and you are allowed to live it how you wish to, no ifs or buts. You'll be too conflicted and unhappy otherwise in my opinion if you don't. Good luck though with whatever you decide to do but remember it is YOUR life not theirs and I hope if they love you they will have understanding and give you support not rejection. Hugs.

Follow your heart! You only get one life and its a shame to waste it

gotta be yourself

You have to do what makes you happy ... your happiness is important too. Those that are meant to be in your life and love you will eventually adapt.
It's time to do "you"

I think you can have both. Honesty above all else is the most admired trait anyone can have.

You have to be who you are!

@Zoranna has said it better than I ever could and I agree with her 100%.

Keeping secrets is never good. Especially if you have to pretend to be somebody you're not as a result. It'll just make you miserable.

I think, if it were me, i'd tell those i loved what was on my mind.
No guarantees of course. But if they love you they'll think on it and might just surprise you with how accepting they might be.

Absolutely live the way your heart tells you!!

If we don't live our lives as who and what we truly are, then we are living a lie, we are live our lives as something we are not and living them for someone else.
Be true to yourself and let others worry about any issues they have with that.

Tough question for me. I'm married and bisexual. My wife knows I'm bi. She doesn't want me acting on my bisexuality. I've tried to keep my fidelity but it's hard some days.

It’s definitely a process and no one can tell you what paths will be presented to you. What I can tell you is this, from someone who has lived a lie and told lies in the past, your mind and the shadows of your desires fill up with all the things unspoken or negated, it becomes a prison. That prison if you allow it to linger can become a poison for you and those you love... for those who love you. No one can live this life but you, do it at your pace and when you’re as ready as circumstance will allow, but live or perish unfulfilled. It’s like the Matrix, you can choose the red or blue pill.

Tough call ...that only u can make ....I took the chance ..didn't loose friends ...oh maybe a few ...weren't good friend then ..followed my heart ....last 20 yes have been worth it tho .. ur call only .

I would never live a lie, always be who you really are. If you lose friends and family you will gain new friends who are there because of who you are not who you were prentending to be.

Always live how your heart tells you. If they love you they never levave you even if they are away. If they leave you means they never have loved you

You need to live and be happy for yourself. If family and friends really care they will accept how you live your life.

Live how your heart tells you, if those family and friends love you they will understand your choices and support you

I started transitioning and I'd never known friends and we'll wishers. All saying you should have been born a girl.

That is a hard question. I would say tell the truth but gently. If it does not need to be told then spare their feelings.

What you cant do is try having what you want a lie about it. Just learned that one a little late in life

I would rather live a lie and protect them from my truth, because they believe in me, and I believe in them...

But that is just it I don't have to lie and I do what ever I want discretely and never hurting anyone....

Go with your heart if you loose them they were not really your friends and you will find new ones ,,,

i would live how my heart tells me to. if your family and friends dont understand that then they arent worthit

very thought provoking question
You already have great answers

That’s hard one. Conflicted about that as I type this.

No 2. The ones I care about and care about me won't be bothered.

say go for it.. life is way too short for anything else!

Would rather follow my heart - living a lie can tear you apart inside.

Well I’m my case I choose to live the lie as I know it would hurt my kids.

I will be honest with them. Life is too short.

Living a lie or a secret is so difficult.

I’ve been keeping the lie for years.

I would keep my family and friends

you have to live an authentic life.

If the family that you are referring to are minor children, then yes you do what is best for them. You are second to them and their needs. If your family members are all adults and truly "good people" they will love you regardless of your hearts choices.

By your heart of course.

I am a good lier

Your family may be more acceptable than your realize, nut in the end try to be true to yourself and what makes you happy. Its still all a balancing act.

That's a hard one.
To me it's your life. Maybe they already know something but dont choose to talk about it.
They wont leave you if they love you.

if your family love you then they should support you and let you live how you want asblong as its legal and not hurting anyone

this is tricky. because the second assumes that your friends and family are a part of the lie.

You must live YOUR life, otherwise you are lying not only to your family and friends but also to yourself.

i keep lots of secrets that i only reveal here. i'd choose to keep the fam.

I do live as I choose but I want to keep my family and friends. I think I can have both. Hbu?

thats difficult....my heart cares way to much so i would rather be abused than loose them

I suppose it depends on the lie.
It sounds like you are coming out.

I'd be honest with them and with myself and let what happens happens

If they cannot handle the truth, then it is their loss.