Would you rather keep your family and friends, living a lie. Or risk loosing them to live how your heart tells you it wants

Are you sure you're going to lose them? You say "risk", they may surprise you but the bottom line is it's your life and you are allowed to live it how you wish to, no ifs or buts. You'll be too conflicted and unhappy otherwise in my opinion if you don't. Good luck though with whatever you decide to do but remember it is YOUR life not theirs and I hope if they love you they will have understanding and give you support not rejection. Hugs.

gotta be yourself

You have to do what makes you happy ... your happiness is important too. Those that are meant to be in your life and love you will eventually adapt.
It's time to do "you"

Follow your heart! You only get one life and its a shame to waste it

I think you can have both. Honesty above all else is the most admired trait anyone can have.

You have to be who you are!

@Zoranna has said it better than I ever could and I agree with her 100%.

Absolutely live the way your heart tells you!!

If we don't live our lives as who and what we truly are, then we are living a lie, we are live our lives as something we are not and living them for someone else.
Be true to yourself and let others worry about any issues they have with that.

Tough call ...that only u can make ....I took the chance ..didn't loose friends ...oh maybe a few ...weren't good friend then ..followed my heart ....last 20 yes have been worth it tho .. ur call only .

Keeping secrets is never good. Especially if you have to pretend to be somebody you're not as a result. It'll just make you miserable.

I think, if it were me, i'd tell those i loved what was on my mind.
No guarantees of course. But if they love you they'll think on it and might just surprise you with how accepting they might be.

Always live how your heart tells you. If they love you they never levave you even if they are away. If they leave you means they never have loved you

I would never live a lie, always be who you really are. If you lose friends and family you will gain new friends who are there because of who you are not who you were prentending to be.

Live how your heart tells you, if those family and friends love you they will understand your choices and support you

That is a hard question. I would say tell the truth but gently. If it does not need to be told then spare their feelings.

You need to live and be happy for yourself. If family and friends really care they will accept how you live your life.

It’s definitely a process and no one can tell you what paths will be presented to you. What I can tell you is this, from someone who has lived a lie and told lies in the past, your mind and the shadows of your desires fill up with all the things unspoken or negated, it becomes a prison. That prison if you allow it to linger can become a poison for you and those you love... for those who love you. No one can live this life but you, do it at your pace and when you’re as ready as circumstance will allow, but live or perish unfulfilled. It’s like the Matrix, you can choose the red or blue pill.

But that is just it I don't have to lie and I do what ever I want discretely and never hurting anyone....

Go with your heart if you loose them they were not really your friends and you will find new ones ,,,

That’s hard one. Conflicted about that as I type this.

very thought provoking question
You already have great answers

I would rather live a lie and protect them from my truth, because they believe in me, and I believe in them...

say go for it.. life is way too short for anything else!

No 2. The ones I care about and care about me won't be bothered.

What you cant do is try having what you want a lie about it. Just learned that one a little late in life

i would live how my heart tells me to. if your family and friends dont understand that then they arent worthit

I will be honest with them. Life is too short.

I would keep my family and friends

Would rather follow my heart - living a lie can tear you apart inside.

Well I’m my case I choose to live the lie as I know it would hurt my kids.

By your heart of course.

If the family that you are referring to are minor children, then yes you do what is best for them. You are second to them and their needs. If your family members are all adults and truly "good people" they will love you regardless of your hearts choices.

Living a lie or a secret is so difficult.

Tough question for me. I'm married and bisexual. My wife knows I'm bi. She doesn't want me acting on my bisexuality. I've tried to keep my fidelity but it's hard some days.

you have to live an authentic life.

I started transitioning and I'd never known friends and we'll wishers. All saying you should have been born a girl.

I’ve been keeping the lie for years.

That's a hard one.
To me it's your life. Maybe they already know something but dont choose to talk about it.
They wont leave you if they love you.

Your family may be more acceptable than your realize, nut in the end try to be true to yourself and what makes you happy. Its still all a balancing act.

if your family love you then they should support you and let you live how you want asblong as its legal and not hurting anyone

I do live as I choose but I want to keep my family and friends. I think I can have both. Hbu?

i keep lots of secrets that i only reveal here. i'd choose to keep the fam.

I am a good lier

Only u can answer that ...u get to live with ur decision.

If they cannot handle the truth, then it is their loss.

I won't lie, both.

Doesn't every one juggle that?

And what would you rather do??

Family I guess, hard decision

You know my answer already