I won't even respond on the post of a religious nutcase

When people find excuses like marriage to be able to go against human rights it makes me wonder is marriage really instituted to control us? Because when they don't consider rape within marriage the same as rape outside it, then what else can we start excusing? Abusing one's wife was normal too. By agreeing to marry, women agreed to abuse (and still happens a lot nowadays and in many cases worldwide it's forced, not an agreement, but I won't go there). So there are people who insist corporal punishment is okay in marriage and nobody has a right to question them because they "agreed" simply by getting married. And the thing about murder is also regarded differently too. In places where femicide is going rampant, it's more often than not that the murderers were the husbands and what do they say? "It was a crime of passion, he was jealous. He loved her so much he didn't want her to leave him so he killed her.". These are common themes. People need to understand that consenting to one thing doesn't mean you will keep consenting to everything that a person wants to do to you and trusting them and being taken advantage of is even worse than when the crime is done by a complete stranger.

This is hard for me to write.

I murdered my wife.

Barristers and psychiatrists can discuss my mental state, that it wasn't premeditated etc but I killed her.

I then repeatedly plead not guilty, allowed the prosecution to present the case then instructed my brief to present nothing. Thus I was sentenced to longest term. 15 years no parole until 75% through.

I served 23 years. It's easy to stay in prison once you're there just fuck up every time they talk about parole, governors court etc you're going to stay in.

I've been out 8 years now. And obviously on a lifetime licence, report to probation, report to police etc. I was looking at being homeless when my mum died just that alone would have meant instant return to prison for me.

My punishment will never end for me. I accept what I did I can never forgive myself.

This post reminded me of a really sad story from when i joined SW

There was a user, a beautiful lady, who was shot by her husband in front if their daughter.

Domestic abuse is real.

A fucked up bit of trivia. Rape by a spouse was basically legal in many places till about the 1970s.

I agree, murder is murder.
I missed the post, what was the issue?

Rape is rape, period. I don't need to think about it, consider the circumstance or know anything other than in fact an alleged rap did in fact occur. If it did, you raped another and I don't care if you knew them, didn't know them or if they were your spouse, cousin, or whatever. You ass needs to go to jail.

yeah, and no self-defense or defense of others the only defense for taking another life.

I don't care if you had a bad homelife - or none at all - there are no excuses.

if you're crazy - you go to a mental hospital. if you're just evil you go to prison where you can't hurt anybody.

screw your social status or bank account balance.

I would like to say you're right, but i don't think you are.

As an example, you shoot someone who is just about to shoot ten other people.

That's murder.... But the context...

Unless we're talking about "The Burning Bed," but that was a unique case.

Murder is murder.
Rape is rape.

Where's the difference?

Exactly. I'm glad you exist 🤗

Yes, I would say so.

Isn't it worse when it comes from someone who should love, cherish and protect you?

Not sure. I mean we have literally centuries of data showing harsher punishments don't work but since you are exponentially more likely to be the victim of violence from and SO something needs changing.