Making a list

So my therapist asked me to make a list of all the things I do during the day that are other people, then make a list for everything I do for myself excluding hygiene. Said that didn't count.

the list was very long for everyone else's needs. And I had like 2 things I do for myself on mine. He said this was something we needed to work on. I put everyone's needs first. He even laughed at me because hamsters list was longer than mine.

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4meAndyou · F

Well, that's the kind of person you ARE, isn't it? And so am I. Thankfully, I no longer have a family to take care of.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@4meAndyou he wants to focus on more self care and doing something just for me once a day. I said a day really. He said that's why we need to work on this

4meAndyou · F

@Cigarguy101 Be sure to count that cigar and that nice belt of whiskey! 🤣🤣🤣

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@4meAndyou he said that doesn't count either because I do it with Joel. He wants me to do something that is just for me. I'm kinda stressing over it because I'm not sure what to do 😔

4meAndyou · F

@Cigarguy101 You have to think of what makes YOU happy! Watching beautiful videos of nature? Going for a walk alone in a gorgeous park? Getting a mani-pedi? (Men get those all the time!)...going for a massage?

If it was ME I would get a massage, a mani-pedi, and go SHOPPING!!! 🤣🤣🤣

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@4meAndyou I like the walk idea but I worry my mind will wonder while I'm spending this time alone thinking about all the things I should be doing instead of wasting it on myself

being · 36-40, F

@Cigarguy101 exercise? Yoga, gym, martial arts? Or simply arts...? Music?
You're not wasting it on yourself! You're giving it to yourself. If you are in a better mood and shape, everyone around you are benefitted too...