Maybe learned a bit of perspective...

Depending how long shes been in that situation... It can get kinda crazy in their heads.

There is such a thing as trauma bonding. Where somehow, thr endorphin flux from 'fight - make up', screws with the pleasure centre's of their brain. So they are lost... They love the person that abuses them.
They still hate the abuse, but the 'love bombing' or breadcrumbs of affection they get... They yearn for.

It's just a form of mental and emotional conditioning, or 'brainwashing'.... It's incredibly sad.
That opinion might not even be hers... It might be her partners, and she just echo's it.

Or, it could be that she just can't get out :no friends, shame from family if she asked, no job, no income, no car,... Mixed with all this covid social restraints.... It can become impossible.
She might be trying to keep what little standards she has left.

Either way...and I HATE myself for saying this.... But, don't get involved except for ringing the Police.

It can be a highly complex, and evidently volitile situation.


It's hard to explain to someone from the outside,, the logic and reasoning behind why one stays in these relationships.... And I look back and confuse myself.

But I can say.... Even if it's just one of them being the violent one.... You don't want to step into it.

It's a fucked up reality, and it defies reason.

Probably just trying to survive best she can and at least she can control fast food.

You always think of others. Very nice.

Whoa Nelly! Even with a fat lip I could gobble down on McDonald's🤭

Wow. That’s a tough situation. So much you don’t know. And you tried to reach out. That woman needs some help.

Usually, in a situation like that, both members of the couple are drunk, or doing drugs, or both. Don't be afraid to call in a noise nuisance. She is never going to leave her husband.

Very true... And there in lies the problem... People accept a whole range of behaviours as normal

@Trippin
Yes exactly, and the speed with which it's done ☄️🤷🏼‍♀️

That's why I scoped mine out HEAVILY before I moved in. Was there on nights and weekends like a creep riding around making sure they weren't rowdy lol.
I also signed a short lease for this reason, in case they ended up rowdy. But all is well and I've renewed. So glad I can save more money with a 12 mo leave vs the 7 mo lease I'm currently in.

Ask if you can move to another apartment within the complex?

Did you happen to get an eye view of the other party? She could be the abuser instead of the one abused. 🤷‍♀️

Guess she needs all the health she can get 🥺

She probably is more concerned about you than her

Hey,priorities first

@Trippin or she might be wary of strangers

🤔

Um, that's an interesting way of prioritizing your health.

That was nice of you to offer and her priorities are messed up.

Her relationship is healthy though😱