If we had the option to close our inbox to private messages, would you choose to close it?

I relate to you but not from the standpoint of responding is a matter of courtesy.. I don’t owe anyone anything. @CelticGal

@deathfairy That's also true. Those are basically uninvited guests.

I already have it set that way. But because I have that folder I still see those messages, and sometimes someone I actually have interacted with gets filtered into there when they reach out to me.

I would like to just remove that entire possibility and stay in public interactions only. @ostfuidctyvm

@deathfairy I'm totally on board and I'd vote for that change. I think it would be a useful protection for people. It's easy to say just block but then they need to provide unlimited blocks regardless of VIP.

Exactly.. and for VIP to also be limited is kinda crazy to me, but i understand they have reasons and a system for how things work. Not dissing it, just idk. @ostfuidctyvm

Ugh.. I have experienced that too, that’s online stalking pretty much..

Nuno said they are really reluctant to allow users to close their inboxes. Not sure why.

If they just had a redirect when someone tried to message us to a page saying “this user isn’t accepting messages at this time” it would solve any lost messages, or a hey I sent you a message but you never saw it” even from friends. And obviously the main thing: we won’t get creepy messages to deal with. To be forced to ignore. Like we are emotionless and can just walk away without being affected. @PerfectionOfTheHeart

@deathfairy
That’s actually a perfect message for the break from it. It’s clean and respectful.

Most of my creepy messages go straight to my requests folder thanks to my settings. My number only lights up when I get messages from those I actually enjoy conversing with. And when I do check the requests folder, they tend to get archived without a second thought. It’s a couple steps to retain my peace, but it’s no biggie to me. I think I checked a week back or so and I had nearly 500 message threads archived, which is a crap ton of creeps over the year. Still far fewer than some women get here.

And when I have an inbox where the cool people have gone silent and I’m left with the eh ones, I’ll send them straight to ignore so they don’t light up my inbox. It’s my way of being blissfully unbothered 😌

I understand, it would be optional, and not permanent..

Ignoring works only to a certain point. @779625b

@deathfairy Yeajh x

Yeah because ur a man, and most men want the inboxes to stay open, but women want the ability to close them or open them when we want.. @NudasPriest

@deathfairy For me it's because I'm fairly private in public, but I've made some lifelong friends in messages.

🙂‍↕ I am glad for you. @NudasPriest

I wish we could just close it and the person trying to message me would see something like “this user isn’t accepting private messages at this time” @HelloItsMeAgain

@deathfairy Omgg, right?! If, only!

@deathfairy I think they gave that option to the whiteboard because it displays publicly on the profile. For a private inbox they'd probably just tell you to ignore it if you don't want private conversations. But perhaps you're one of those that would further descend into the darkest depths of insanity seeing that notification flag keep getting larger and larger.

I literally can’t have any number badge accumulating for messages, notifications, I keep it empty at all times.

It’s not even that. It’s the actual messages themselves. @SpectralMourning

@deathfairy I'm sorry...I do get wanting it all to just be an empty clean slate.

Your “M” is already the very deterrent to not recieve the messages i am talking about.

I don’t even add my gender and it still doesn’t always help. @Keeper

@deathfairy

You’re not unpopular.. I was just admiring your username earlier. I should have said something.

But I agree 🥺 @OlderSometimesWiser

@deathfairy
If you do not reply they cannot send another

I don’t reply, but they keep coming from new accounts… I never ever reply, I don’t even open them.

You’re obviously an alt and not actually helping.

I am beyond ignoring them, not messaging them back, I want to just close the loop. @emmasfriend

@deathfairy
Sorry, only trying to be helpful

You can open and close it whenever you want. Like your whiteboard.. 🥲

Not like REMOVING IT FOREVER. @poisonouscupcake

@deathfairy ahhhh i get that, that would be a nice option i think😺

Wow that’s like a whole separate layer to it. Like true customization and I don’t know if they would actually be able to allow that. I just want a on and off switch. @Bexsy

@deathfairy I know, I ask a lot :/

I would even choose to close it if the only option was to close it permanently and irreversibly. @Selah

Me too..

According to the poll, most ppl who complain about the messages they receive. But when presented with an actual solution to it, they wouldn’t go for it. @Magenta

@deathfairy Indeed. I'm happy when I don't have messages to open, ha!
I like the freedom of just doing my own thing without all that shallow interaction that can become exhausting.

Exactly, and in most of my experience, private messaging is where most friendships go to die. Literally. @Magenta