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Should I buy a coworker I dont really talk to a grieving gift?

There was a terrible, hate crime - related shooting that resulted in the death of her family member (alongside other familes, double digit death toll)

Obviously she isnt doing well, so I've heard.

Is it appropriate to get her flowers, card, and bag of hersbye kiss chocolate? If so what shpuld I write in the card?
Jeephikelove · 46-50, F
A sympathy card is a great way to go.
Probably just a card will do it.
BackyardShaman · 61-69, M
Sympathy card
smiler2012 · 56-60
i personally think that is a lovely gesture and shows her you care in her time of sadness and loss [anxietymaci]
It depends on her personality honestly.

If I were going through that & somebody tried to give me a card or chocolate I'd be kinda bothered 😬

But maybe I'm weird. I'd just be thinking "this ain't a damn celebration or a "get well soon" situation. Let me grieve
@bijouxbroussard I mean like, I wouldn't be angry.. but the card would probably make me feel everything & I would be upset. I don't like showing when I'm upset so I wouldn't really know what to say. I'd just be thinking in my head "why would you give me this? 😣"
@ChiefWalksWith40oz I suppose it might be awkward, if it were someone who wasn’t a friend.
I’ve done it in that situation, just to let the person know that I cared.
But I’ve also been on the other side, and while there’s [b]nothing[/b] anyone can say at the time that helps—not even from loved ones—once I was myself again, I did remember who reached out.
@bijouxbroussard yeah I feel like I would appreciate it in the long run probably but in the moment I'd feel so watched & idk I'm just weird about sympathy lol. I was on the news once when my first house burned down.. you could see me in the background yelling at the rest of the news crews to get tf away because I was so pissed off. That was slightly different but yeah 😅 I was mad because in my head they don't know & they don't give a shit. People just love a sad story
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Gift buying is overboard. You need only express your deepest sympathy when you see her.
Dshhh · M
"My thoughts are with you" or prayers if you or she are that kind
Rhode57 · 56-60, M
Just send card and flowers with a simple condolences on your loss and your name is all thats neccessary its the thought that counts .
Ferric67 · M
All the above apply, let her know that you are sorry for her loss and you're there to support her by any means possible
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
The flowers and a card would be adequate, with a simple message expressing condolences on their loss.
Classified · M
Maybe you could give a card or some chocolate together with a few others.
Wiseacre · F
A card and flowers..and offer ur friendship!

 
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