Any ideas on how to go from (extreme) self-hate to self-love (or even self-like)?

A Rose By Any Other Name"


Look at me.

You see yourself as a dandelion,

one of many, and not at all special:

Yet, still considered a flower by some.

In reality, You are a Rose,

deep, rich red, delicate passion pink.

Soft, satiny petals,

And yet, you do have your thorns.

You keep those around you at a distance.

Seemingly to be safe,

but there is nothing to be afraid of.

So look at me...

You are in your prime, your beauty is in full bloom.

Feel it, let it happen, it's become a part of you.

You have such a special gift, in which you deny yourself

the pleasure of your deep passions...

Decadent and starving.

Look at me.

Don't be afraid to feed yourself,

and taste all the pleasures that life has to offer.

Let yourself be loved.

But most important of all-

Love yourself.

For only then, can you look into a mirror-

And be happy with what you see.

💞Kelly.

one day someone said something very simple to me and then i understood self-love. he said "treat yourself as you would treat you best friend in the same situation, be your best friend"

🤗🤗💞💞
https://similarworlds.com/7787600-I-Write-Short-Stories/1815682-The-Mirror-Before-you-can-love-another-you-must

I think by realizing others are too jealous and egotistical to ever give us credit for shit, so we might as well do it for ourselves.

I still have a long way to go, but mindfulness meditation and simple acts of self care have done wonders

taking an hour out for self love everyday

Realize that you're basically good

Compare yourself to actual bad people and you'll see you're not so bad after all.

you may have to let someone else look after that for you.

meditation?
https://www.google.com/search?q=meditation+cann+clear+self-hate

I don't think there is a quick fix like that. I do know that it is perfectly ok to call your inner voice a liar, and to check it's attitude.

There was a strategy I learned in therapy. When you tell yourself negative self-talk, see if you can try to catch that thought in the moment and identify it as negative self-talk. Even the act of just identifying that that is what it is, helps.