what is going on with you people?

@HootyTheNightOwl I just don't anymore ....at all.

Its just not worth the creeps that enter your PM'S with lewd comments , or sarcasm , or "telling you they are a cousellor for abused women".

It makes your skin crawl and you mind scream all over again.


We are such a fucked up species.

@SW-Userthankyou 😂...but I'm terribly average man.😏

@OogieBoogie If you say so. You do have majestic hair though. 👍

@SW-User maybe I am too open of a person. Most of the things I talk about with my therapist I talk about every place. Maybe that's why I don't understand

@Dainbramadge I've learned that internet isn't really a great place to bring personal things. Most don't really care all that much.
I will tell a few people maybe, but they are people I feel I can trust. Internet has taught me many are strangers and can't be trusted with major personal things.

@Oberon1 you know that is what happened on EP. They made a program called Kanjoya. That is an interesting read.

@Dainbramadge There was also a suicide pact that turned into a murder. I believe that took them down, they should have just stuck with MS support group. That is what they started as,

@Dainbramadge Thank you for asking the question and getting this good discussion going!

@Starchild1983 You can`t see me. 🙈

@PepsiColaP I dare say not with everyone ... but ... butt ... I doubt you fall into that former category.

@ServantOfTheGoddess I just wrote a comment to this whole group about me not looking forward very well. I never thought about the chance of someone from my real life ever bumping along me on here. I do wonder what I would do if it did happen.

@Dainbramadge I often have this fear that somebody in my family might be on here and recognize me!!

@SW-User bingo. I think this is the answer I was looking for. While I was looking for answers but I think you hit one nail on the head
Even though the site is anonymous, or as anonymous as a site can be, people still feel uncomfortable sharing those sensitive things. Kind of like walking out on a glass bridge and being able to see how far off the ground you are. Thank you for this

@Dainbramadge
oooooh😍🤩 ....I'd like a cottage by a river ...please 🤗😆
...with a squeaky front gate 😊

@OogieBoogie are you trying to get in my pants?
I do talk about the things that I have been through. I think mostly in comments and people's posts about a similar experience that we share. That's where it seems to be the most pertinent to affect people.
I don't believe there is a whole lot that I don't share on here. But as I write erase rewrite erase rewrite I realize I don't actually make posts about the miserable s***. Like I said share that mostly in the comments of others posts.
Maybe that is something I will start to do different. I'm glad you brought that up. Gives me something to think about.

@Dainbramadge in your pants ?...

I dunno....



where do you keep your wallet ?

🤪🤣

Truth @Carissimi

@Carissimi I guess in that case we have to ask ourselves is it anonymous enough. Does it do what we needed to do. I don't know maybe I am just fooling myself. Thank you

@V00doo It's a sad individual who would take advantage.

@Dainbramadge you're right...expressing ourselves IS for ourselves.


But you know the world ....people will grab wjat you have - and tear it to pieces , just to make tjemsleves feel good .

@OogieBoogie wow, these comments are pretty disturbing.
I know with myself I use humor as a defense mechanism. I laugh at the b******* I have been through because it's better than crying.
But I can see where people have been made to feel vulnerable in the place where they are not supposed to feel that way. This is sad.
I also realized that I'm not affected by a lot of the things that others are, one because I'm a man and also my brain doesn't exactly work like most others. And yes you read that correctly I am a man kind of. LOL
I will be putting more thought towards this.

@SW-User well it sure was seeming like people were awful weird. It's looking like people are still worried that they're not actually talking to their neighbors and their neighbors knowing it is them. I don't know I haven't got all the way through these comments yet. Thank you

@Dainbramadge I'm pretty sure there are scammers in the neighbourhood, even. Burglary and fraud seem to be a bit of a thing here. Wouldn't surprise me.

I even had to have the neighbour's loan shark mail redirected from my house. I googled a return address and was sure to mark the envelope with NOT THIS ADDRESS all over the bloody thing and reposted it rather than leave it a few doors down.

Haven't gotten any since then.

@Dainbramadge its true ...we do learn not to trust it .

Its the theme of humanity today.

How else do you control so many billions of people ?..

...Fear, Distrust ..and desire .

@OogieBoogie you are right about that. I look at my kids and how unencumbered they are. They talk about things so relaxed. It's really beautiful.
Then as we go I guess we get pummeled into thinking there is nothing special about us. That we are lower than we actually are. That we don't quite measure up anymore.
We go from you can be anything you want to you're not good enough in a few short years.
It just confuses me because I know what I do when I come here. I know what types of things I share. But I see people talking about not being able to just that. I guess there are a few things to consider though.

@Dainbramadge I think its different for everybody.

And it depends how secure you are in your RL.

Imagine being trapped in a relationship, totally dependent on the will of an abusive partner...and your religion or culture doesn't allow you to leave .
You have no money , no independence, no rights.

You'de be VERY careful what you said .


Yes...this is an extreme, but not unheard of .

People could be in horrible circumstances....and have so much to lose if someone found out what they posted.

I know quite a few women here who are living in fear, hiding all of who they are....just so they can work a scheme to get out .

And some aren't even free after they have left.

Here is the only "life" they have.🤷‍♀️

@Jonjdw yes someone who gets it. This is a great, thank you

@Jonjdw this is NOT for sensitive people?

Then where are sensitive people supposed to be ?

Are we to tell them theu are not wanted coz of all the insensitive people?

Isnt there enough insensitivity in the real world already?

The only shame of this site IS the insensitivity here...


...People not caring how they speak, what they degrade, how they insult, who they abuse or what, or who, they laugh at.

And its this very attitude that makes trolling become a trend: makes it 'hip'.


I think this place should be for everybody.

@HootyTheNightOwl LOL. Maybe I have just gotten used to making do with what I got. I find this a very useful. But I have also learned about things that have an affected me that do affect others. This question was kind of an eye-opener. But I still don't feel like I can't share things here. Maybe that is because my experiences haven't cut deep enough. Thank you

@MsAnnThropy wait what? Did I miss something?

@Dainbramadge Because I did something like this earlier.

@MsAnnThropy yeah this was based on a few things that I had seen. I seen people commenting about stuff that related to this mostly.
But that shouldn't cause you to think that you annoy me. Nobody here annoys me.
This is just a culmination of input that I received today.

@theAlchemist I have found a lot more people that give a s*** then I actually thought I would. There are actually some very thoughtful and considerate people here. More so than that has been my experience. But I have also seen bad things happen to good people.
Your life is like a painting. You may look at it and think it doesn't look like anything but if you show others you might find out that Picasso is living in your head. LOL

@ServantOfTheGoddess or if they just had more moderators on the entire site all together? I have read people complaining about that as well.

@Dainbramadge More moderation [i]might[/i] help. But that's tricky because nobody wants censorship on a site like this.

@Azlotto yeah?😂.....personally speaking I know I'm unhinged 😏

@OogieBoogie this may be a little late to this conversation but I will add it anyways.
The quote about finding humor in anything I think would have been from the person who was raped. Not from the rapist. I think I put that correctly.

@Dainbramadge I think you might be applying the experience of other horrible things ....how, over time, one learns to laugh at it : a broken leg , a car accident, being poor, having a shitty childhood , emotional loss, abuse of some kind.

Thing is ....this one topic seems different.

Ive not spoken with one single person , who, even decades later ....can laugh about being a rape victim.

In fact, it seems to have such deep repercussions - it breaks parts of the mind.

Some get a type of amnesia, some sort of get emotionally clogged up,or cut off from previously accessible emotions, some it even changes their sexuality.
Some, it changes them so much, that their only healing is through BDSM: their pain/pleasure processing gets re-wired.

Its hard to explain. Nearly every other trauma,(I cant think of any right now), i think is externally based, the hurt comes at you from the outside.

But rape, literally beats you up internally, it comes from the inside, and it seeps into your mind, (and sometimes it feels like, your it seeps into your core)....it never leaves.

We can laugh about our chaos, manicness and our brokeness, that stems from it ....but honestly, I know of no one yet....who can look back .....and laugh about it .

IMHO🤷‍♀️

@Dainbramadge I don't have anything to share either.

@Tobasco I have stuff to share it's just not a very big secret with me. Trying to say I don't keep things to myself very well. LOL

@Dainbramadge Ah fair enough. I don't think I have any secrets worth sharing 🤣

@GeorgeTBH you appear to not be the only one that thinks this. I have searched things that I have said on here as well as my name here in real life on different search engines in different configurations. I don't find much very often. But those people that dox other people sure can find connections. I have seen that happen to a friend of mine.

@TurtlePink I was just seeing a lot of material here about people not feeling comfortable sharing stuff. It seemed odd to not feel comfortable on an anonymous web site. I had my eyes opened a little wider with some of these comments. Things that I've never thought about. A lot of people that commented on this have had trolls on there posts making light of the things that they share. Also some people have had people take information that was shared privately between them and use it openly to attack them. Like I said I learned some things.

@Oberon1 so the way to be less sensitive is to hurt the person that hurt you? I don’t like doing that. I was thinking about how you can get past the words so they don’t hurt….

@iamonfire696 Well I guess aversion therapy isn't the right course! My grandfather said, "If a man calls you a horse, ignore him. If two men call you a horse, laugh it off. If three men call you a horse, stock up on hay!' You know who you are, and unprovoked unkind words should evoke pity for the person saying them, since they are revealing an insecurity in their attempt to hurt your feelings.

@Oberon1 I agree with that. Thank you for your input.

@travelguy01 oh my God I think I anonymously smelled it too. You may need to go wipe

@Lilnonames LOL. I have searched myself in many configurations and have yet to be able to find myself. LOL. Isn't that funny I can't find myself

@MethDozer ewww... That dog is getting busy with the USB port on that computer. LOL