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When you meet someone online

And they say they are single, but they don’t want to share or exchange a photo of themselves, what goes thru your mind?
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Many of you have inspired me not to share my image on this site, I will consider removing it.
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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
They're a private person and want to stay anonymous
Northwest · M
If they did not ask for a picture, what would be the point of a one-way image exchange, unless a date is imminent, AND it's not at a Starbucks, what would the point in sending a picture to someone they've never met? Who knows what would happen to that picture, and what context it might be used in.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Northwest true. I never thought of someone misusing someone’s photo. Anoth malicious possibility.
@Mindful You wouldn't need a picture to meet at Starbucks because you can read the names on the cups.
Some are just very private and others have a hidden agenda ...but either way it doesn't matter to me ..I'm just here to laugh with and at people
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Chernobylplaygrounds I have moved towards that concept for this site … it’s best to interact on THIS site just on the forum/post section
@Mindful yes'm
BalthazarBlake · 56-60, M
Doesn't bother me. If they want to stay private that's their business, not everyone wants to share pictures of themselves. A 'no' should be acceptable without any suspicion. As long as they don't ask for money I'm fine with anyone.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@BalthazarBlake absolutely should be sufficient. It’s definitely what I would expect from another person
SW-User
I don't think anything of it, because I'm not interested in a relationship with them anyway.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@SW-User excellent point! One has to accept this reality when it happens and let it go
SW-User
@Mindful Right. I realise everyone has a different reason for being here and let it go at that.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@SW-User yes and if the reasons don’t match…. Let it go
Carissimi · 61-69, F
I don’t ask people for their pictures. The last time I shared pics was back in 2011-2012, I think. I don’t trust the internet. I suppose it depends in what context they say they are single. I mean are you expecting a budding romance with this person? If not, then I don’t know what the problem is.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
By thoughts, do you mean expectations of the other person? @Mindful
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Carissimi I meant your thoughts, but since you don’t exchange photos with others, this only applies to you in theory, which is more of a challenge to answer since you don’t exchange photos. How would you know what your reaction/thoughts is/would be.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
Are you asking what I would think if I was a person who did exchange photos? If so, then I’d feel the same, and respect the person’s wishes. I mean unless I was expecting to start a romantic relationship with someone, I’d respect their wishes, but you are asking me hypothetical questions, and my first comment responded with my reality. @Mindful
Justferfuun1 · 36-40, M
I've (previously) blocked practically everyone who responded to this. Lol. But I don't share my picture on here or really anywhere because I'm terrified of accidentally saying something stupid and never living it down.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Justferfuun1 I’m so sorry. You are absolutely okay to not post anything as is everyone else. This should be a safe place for you.
Justferfuun1 · 36-40, M
@Mindful no need to apologize, I just wanted to offer an honest answer to a really fair question.
IamBack · 31-35, M
They want to protect their privacy, nothing wrong with that and has nothing to do with their being single 🤷🏻‍♂️
IamBack · 31-35, M
@Mindful haha no need to age shame, has nothing to do with age either
Mindful · 51-55, F
@IamBack it’s not age shame, it’s that different generations have experienced the age of the internet differently. As they should! The internet is a hub for both good and bad… the bad is very bad!
IamBack · 31-35, M
@Mindful fair enough
ABCDEF7 · M
Not every single is always ready to mingle.

Maybe they are not specifically comfortable with you.
Mindful · 51-55, F
@ABCDEF7 that’s a great point!
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
They have something they are lying about in their online persona
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Mindful · 51-55, F
@OldMan70 that’s very wise. I have a tendency to believe this more than anything but I could be wrong. The percentage of deception is so high that I don’t accept PM or DMs except from established friend who give excellent advibe
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Mindful · 51-55, F
@OldMan70 no biggie, it’s all in the past. I’m just reminiscing
SW-User
Then they should stay single
I think they don't want someone to copy their photo and use it somewhere on the internet.
@Ferric67 Protecting their own privacy.
Ferric67 · M
@Pitchblue that's been my stance too, but since most folk either ignore me or block me...I've randomly put it out there.
@Ferric67 Over the years the people on sites like this have learned to not post personal pictures. Women especially. Of course there are exceptions.
originnone · 56-60, M
IDK...I"m married and won't share a photo....
Mindful · 51-55, F
@originnone makes sense to me, but you do have a photo avatar, is it your likeness ?
originnone · 56-60, M
@Mindful It's Michael Cera. He is the spitting image of me in my younger days.....
Mindful · 51-55, F
@originnone cute!
Ferric67 · M
Are you flirting with Brad Pitt?
Ferric67 · M
@Mindful not quite a her is he

Personally, for the longest time, I was reluctant of showing myself...but, since I've stopped socializing out...and the unlikely threat of running into someone whom might recognize me has basically disappeared...I've randomly posted
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Ferric67 hmmmmm I hate to be the one to tell you but, everyone knows you Sponge Bob.
Ferric67 · M
@Mindful good, let's keep it that way
SW-User
You have to respect other's desire for privacy and protection as you would expect them to respect yours.
No self confidence or it’s a dood
travelguy01 · 41-45, M
Catfish or scammer if they are discussing about potentially wanting to date you. Though they could just use a fake photo too.

Private person if they are just interacting.
I’m not here to date anyone, so it wouldn’t matter. If I were on a dating site, my avi would be a photo and that’s what I’d expect from anyone approaching me.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
They just want to be discreet
Lilnonames · F
That maybe when they shared a photo before it was passed around and used by others
Mindful · 51-55, F
@Lilnonames that would be tragic… thanks for sharing your thoughts’
Renaci · 36-40
That they don't want their pics stolen or be doxed.

 
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