How many times do you rescue a friend....

I have been there with an Army friend named Troy that was put out of the Army on a Mental disability retirement. I bought his kids Christmas gifts when he was going through a divorce and the alcoholism set in on Troy, then smoking pot, then he went homeless and was living in a broken-down RV parked on a store parking lot. The police impounded and arrested Troy for fighting them on that store parking lot. When in Jail I was contacted by Troy's older brother that was in the Army as well and now retired, and the brother said just before Troy was arrested by the police he had been at his brother's house seeking money because Troy was now smoking crack and meth. The brother refused to give Troy money until Troy went into a sobriety program and got clean. That was when Troy pulled a gun and threatened to kill his older brother. The older brother advised me not to take the younger brother into my home post his release from jail, because things would have disappeared from my home to be sold for drugs, and I was raising my daughter still as my son was now in the Army. That I did not need the life hassle and possible threat.


I took that advise and was glad I did so. Post Troys release from jail, he repeated fighting the police getting arrested drugs and alcohol and mentally lost. Troy once released his final time from jail went to a halfway house and hung himself while high and drunk.

Troy's older brother and I hugged and cried at Troy's funeral as well as Troys eldest son that was just inducted into the US Airforce for a year and a half.

Brother it is hard to stay on the side lines watching a person destroy themselves that you love, but there is only so much a person can do. You have to let her find her own way. The school of hard knocks to save your own family and family lives and peace.

It's hard to know and I am sorry. Maybe she needs the hospital, but I mean in rehab and not from a consequence. But I also understand her in a way, most chase addiction especially when they relapse I think from how lonely they feel. It's often the reason why some relapse I think, because there is a part of them missing no one understands, they will take almost any consequence to just have feeling again, or a normalcy ill afforded to addicts often. To understand an addict in way, you have to take away reason and think purely in emotion and needing to find ways to cope, as that's what drugs do so much.

I can't say for you what to do, that's always for you.

Well sounds like all the help in the world, won't fix the behavioral life choices she is making. Even with heavy help from peers, she keeps relapsing.
She got any family? Or 100% on her own?

At some point you have to be comfortable with letting them figure things out on their own. Certainly not worth the headaches she’s given you.

It’s time to stop being the safety net. She needs to hit bottom and start to fix herself.

You can only do so much for people When they keep making the same mistakes,