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How many times do you rescue a friend....

We have a family friend that ended up homeless and lost everything. Due to husband beating on her, both heavy drinkers, both went to jail, both, got into trouble, yada yada yada

Anyways as a lifetime friend we offer to help her out till she saved up money, get cleaned and sober, get her place and such.

6 months go by she is doing great, staying clean, saving money and then the courts say she can go to the ex boyfriend to get her car and stuff with a police escort.

That's when shit starts going down hill.

Car is not safe to drive, expire plates, and she gets a bug up her ass to drive to the city in this busted ass car.

Get a call from the jail that she was picked up for DUI. Let her sit till her Probation office releases her. She sits for 4 weeks.

She comes back home, that's strike 1

She is caught hanging out with a known dope dealer, but the friend is not known for using. But friend has been used as a drug mule before and was busted for it. This is strike 2

She gets a bug up her ass and starts talking to the ex . She is back with the dude that put her in the hospital the first time and decides to move out against our advice. Strike 3

Guess who called this morning looking to be rescued again.

What would you do? I want to done with her stupid ass, but I also dont want to see her in the hospital or dead either. I'm caught between a rock and hard place.
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Levenrack · 46-50, M
Well sounds like all the help in the world, won't fix the behavioral life choices she is making. Even with heavy help from peers, she keeps relapsing.
She got any family? Or 100% on her own?
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@Levenrack You are 100% correct and the tough love of letting the person to handle their own life without any more enabling or safety net is the only thing that will work.

If a person cannot save themselves from their own life choices, then you cannot help them. The school of hard knocks.