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My neighbour is making me crazy

She keeps coming over unannounced when I’m cooking dinner and rings and rings the bell and knocks on the door endlessly. It’s ok once in a while but this is almost every day over the past week. She’s nice enough but I just wish she’d come later and not at dinner time. And not to continue knocking and knocking and ringing the bell for five minutes
Mbingh01 · 61-69, F
I have lived in the same house for 42 years. I have a neighbor that has come over a few times (uninvited) and has hung out for 4-5 hours. Both her and her mom are “ disabled” 🧐 that’s bs. But anyway the last time she came over I just did laundry, cooked myself food and was just borderline rude. I think she got the message. There are givers and takers. They have absolutely nothing to give. In case of an emergency, of course I would help. Otherwise, I’m not falling for the poor pitiful me.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@Mbingh01 That’s so weird that they would stay so long too
Mbingh01 · 61-69, F
@Jenny1234 it’s just the daughter( she’s 47, same age as my son) not the mom. The mom is 69. They live together and I don’t think they get along. She is just looking for somewhere to escape to.
dale74 · M
Save some dirty dishes say you can come in but have to help do the dishes while I cook.
come2gether · 51-55, M
Tell her you're not available at certain times, because you're keeping your schedule and if not kept it really messes up everything else. Then suggest times that work better for you for her to hammer on your door.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@come2gether that’s the problem. I think if I told her she would likely not understand because she barely speaks any English and she tries to speak to me with the three or four words that she knows and with hand gestures

Plus, she keeps saying the word church ‘you go church’ and I’m not going there
come2gether · 51-55, M
@Jenny1234 oh, peculiar indeed. She's trying to save you apparently. According to her, I mean.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@come2gether I truly think she is!
My worst fear is an annoying neighbor. Start asking her for favors. People usually fall back when you give them random tasks.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@DarlingSelah I don’t really like to become friends with my neighbours to be honest. I’ve seen some really big fights between neighbours who were best friends and I don’t want to come to the point where I don’t want to come home to my own house for fear that someone’s going to be there interrupting me and coming over. This is my personal space and I’m not sharing it with people unless it’s on my terms
Mbingh01 · 61-69, F
@Jenny1234 I agree. It’s sad but true.
Onasander · 41-45, M
Ohio? I used to live across the river and they would do this sorta thing whenever I visited corn country. Was weird. The flatness gets to you after a while, makes you do strange things.
Neoerectus · M
"I'm busy today. Come back another time."
atlantic59 · 61-69, M
neighbour's can make their neighbours move. I had a neighbour who's last two neighbours made her reluctantly run back to a boyfriend she was unsure of...one was always at her door or banging on her walls when they thought she was loud and she wasn't. Two apartments within three months had her fleeing for her life
Wanderer1964 · 56-60, M
Is there anything you can do ....within reason ...that would make her uncomfortable enough ...to not visit ??
Lilymoon · F
My neighbor used to do that too until I started ignoring her.
Cruel to be kind. 🤷‍♀️
Adogslife · 61-69, M
She’s either lonely in need of a friend or worse, she’s trying to convert you.
bookerdana · M
She sounds lonely....why not set boundaries such as please call before visiting
Can't you politely say you're busy?
dontbekoi · 36-40, F
Is she hungry?
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
your neighbor visits AND you open the door? not what I'd expect from a SWeeple ffs 😀 must be a Canadian thing because we don't do that here.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@pancakeslam yes i do sometimes
pancakeslam · 41-45, M
@Jenny1234 have you tried removing the doorbell?
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@pancakeslam i should try that!!
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I would just tell her that you’re in the middle of dinner and tell her you’re not up for company at the moment.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 don’t let her in. Or does she barge through?
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@iamonfire696 she doesn’t barge through. She stays on the doorstep.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Jenny1234 tell her you’re not up to company?
She probably wants some of what you're cooking.

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