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Tips for making friends as an adult?

So I recently moved states to a new city and it's amazing but boy is it a bit lonely. Making friends as an adult is HARD. Anyone have any tips?
If you have a hobby or a special interest, see if there's a group or a club for it, if you can find people with shared interests that can a good way to meet people and make friends, I did it years ago when I moved to somewhere new, I liked golf and joined a club, and found that was a good way to connect with people
iamBen · M
The older you get the harder it gets. Please do get out there, find some meetup groups who share your interests, or something. Connect before it becomes next to impossible.
Casheyane · 26-30, F
@iamBen Did you reach that point? That it feels impossible, I mean? Did it change?
iamBen · M
@Casheyane yes, I have gotten to a point that it feels nearly impossible to make new friends. For what it is worth, I'm not particularly socially awkward. I have some charm and wit at my disposal. I'm also not standoffish. But, it seems that there comes a time when most people aren't interested in adding to their social circle. Or maybe there's other reasons. I'm not certain.
UndercoverBard · 31-35, M
I’d look into joining groups you’re interested in the area as well as any volunteer opportunities you may be interested in. Great place to meet people that have things in common with you
Disgustedman · 61-69, M
Church, community center, volunteer for others.

Note, volunteering is really an incredible double feeling. One you're out helping the helpless or those who can't get to certain places or need help filling out forms.

The great thing about that is later you feel so Superior to these idiots that you're helping and you know that they're lazy bums but you know that someone's watching over your shoulder and you know that you're better than they'll ever be and even that person looking over your shoulder knows that too but still you want to be humble right?
Casheyane · 26-30, F
I am starting to realize that making friends is not that hard if you're willing to attend things and spend free time with people.

But as for the quality of their minds and the values they live is hard to find people you can learn from and who can influence you to be better.
PatKirby · M
You have to join a group. Tell people you sense are friendly straight out that you're looking for friends. That's what I did when I moved several hundreds of miles away for a new job. It works just be honest. Most will come right out and accept you, but you have to make an effort. Good luck.
Talk to people at work or your neighbors. Hang out with them often. Then they introduce you to people & you introduce them to new people too
You just gotta be open to doing shit & going out
deadteddy · 26-30, F
Are you alone there? No family? I wouldn’t know what to do tbh. I suck at making friends too
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@deadteddy I'm with my husband and I have 2 friends in the city who I see here and there. My home town isn't too far but with school and work I don't get to go often enough to see old friends like I used to.
JovialMoose · 46-50, M
Besides work... I joined a few groups (mostly tennis) when we moved.
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@JovialMoose checking that site out right now!
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I'd say the simplest is to get out and say hi to people. When shopping, doing errands, etc.
ssholes · 31-35
Get involved in activities and find other people doing those activities.
Raaii · 18-21, F
like there's no friend but if you want them just don't expect anything in return and always be ready to give 🤦‍♀️
Raaii · 18-21, F
@Casheyane really now I just don't know how 😔😔
Casheyane · 26-30, F
@Raaii Figure out your boundaries and set them. You may have started a pushover, but show them a new version of you. If they leave, good riddance. If they stay and respect you for it, then you'd have filtered out the bad eggs.
It may take time, but by the grace of God, true friends come too every once in a while.
Raaii · 18-21, F
@Casheyane thank you for your genuine and positive advice🙇‍♀️
I believe in God's Grace
Though at this point I've no hope for any respect
And I'm going okay already
So nothing is necessary
Menetics · 22-25, F
Strike out conversations with strangers :) I do this when travelling and I only strike convos with women. With the opposite sex, it can be tricky.
not sure really, perhaps try to be friendly.
Viper · M
Join activity groups
Casheyane · 26-30, F
@Viper Does it really work?
Viper · M
@Casheyane nothing works 100% of the time...
Justferfuun1 · 36-40, M
I haven't figured it out yet
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TxOutlawTyler · 16-17, M
Answering your inbox 📥
dannyppaul · 61-69, M
DDonde · 31-35, M
No idea man
empanadas · 31-35, M
Joing a fetish group
NativePortlander · 51-55
Find coworkers that have similar interests as you do, or join a club.

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