A friend told me about her friend’s 13 year old committing suicide. 13!

I’m so sorry…
A cousin with whom I had been close took her life when we were both 12.

She was being assaulted by a family "friend" and became pregnant.

When she told me, I advised her to tell her parents.

She did—and they didn’t believe her. I told my mother, who went to them, saying "children don’t lie about this !”

The parents told us both to stay out of it.

After the cousin’s death, then they took another look at the man, who had other victims…

It's extremely sad when they can't see a better option at such a young age. I worked for a time in a child protection team and there was a 14yr old girl who would attempt suicide and self harm at any available opportunity if not constantly monitored. It was literally her only goal. It was pretty much known that one day she'd succeed. It was such a sad state for a child to end up in but in her case it was a product of the kind of trauma that adults can inflict on children. In other cases it's the trauma that children can inflict on each other, particularly in this age of social media and of not caring about anything being seen as cool.

It's not something you can come to terms with. It's something that will never go away and you have to learn to hold onto the good memories and not the absent of them. It seems pretty young but i drank a whole bottle of nighttime dimetapp when i was 8 hoping i wouldn't wake up. My parents didn't care enough and i didn't care enough to think about what it would do to my parents if I succeeded. Ive noticed that younger and younger kids are suicidal due to social media.

My nephew did but he was an adult and it's devastated my family..can't even imagine if had been when he was just a child

I don't think you do... Not easily anyway.. and certainly not quickly... A lot of soul searching....

The first time I tried to kill myself I was 6.

I'm not sure you will my nephew when he was in his early twenties committed suicide.
It was one of the worst outpouring of grief from the family I ever saw.

That’s so horrifying, absolutely gut wrenching. I seem to be hearing more and more about these tragedies and ask myself the same question, how do the parents manage to go on, to live life with a broken heart. Perhaps having other children to raise gives them a reason to live but I can’t imagine anything more painful and nothing will ever be the same.

Your friend needs you at the moment. Just be there for her. Try to get her out of her environment for a bit.

Coming to terms with the loss of a child is hard for anyone. And suicide always leaves others to pick up the pieces. How do you think the child’s friends feel at this time. They need comfort too.

They don’t.
Trust me.

One cant easily.

According to national data, overdose suicides nationally have risen significantly over the last 10 years. There is some geographical variation.

Class mate of mine killed herself in grade 10. I learned later that her parents marriage ended in divorce because the shared trauma was too much for them.

How little are you paying attention to your child that they feel suicide is their only choice.....

How beyond awful. I remember holding a large kitchen knife to my stomach when I was around 10 or 11 but the thought "this will make Mommy really sad" stopped me. Now that I have a child of my own, I know that I would be wrecked for the rest of my existence.

i hear too many stories of young people taking their lives because of what they endure over the internet. mainly because of bullying, blackmail etc.

I'm so sorry. I have had suicides in and near to the extended family. One doesn't really come to terms with it as a parent.

That is sad, and I don't know how I'd come to terms with that as a parent. I remember wanting to end it all when I was that age. The teen years can be rough.

I imagine it haunts and hurts for the rest of life.

They never really do its even harder on their siblings

Idk that.. difficult

I don't feel like I'd be able to or see much purpose in going on.

I dont even have any words. Thats so extremely sad.

😐💔

I imagine you don't 😭