Before sending someone a PM, do you take the time to read their profile?

People, at best, seem to like to collect friends. I've never quite understood that. Perhaps it's just me, but a pm is a bit of an intrusion into someone's personal space. Unless I knew someone well, I'm simply not going to show up at their door to borrow a cup of sugar.

It would be so helpful if people did. It would probably stop alot of uncomfortable messages. Like is it really acceptable to send someone something sexual not even say hi. Plus im Asexual and say so on my profile in hopes to deter people froms sending that stuff

This site is full of people, overwhelmingly male, who are here to live their sexuality vicariously. For the average male (98%) the ratio of rejection to acceptance is probably 10,000 to 1 in real life or higher, maybe slightly better in virtual life. So most males, when they see a woman's profile that asks them to refrain from giving her unsolicited sexual attention (in other words, rejects them outright) figure why not give it a try anyway... she's put up a red signal anyway, so let me just take a chance and see whether a PM can turn it that signal yellow. Nothing lost in the bargain.

I've been tempted to do this on many occasions, and were it not for my sense of self-respect, I would have done it. But self-respect does not win you women... we men don't really know for sure what does, but self-respect is surely not at the top of the list.

Yes, I will always read someones profile first, and usually read and comment on a few of their stories first too.

It would be a rare thing for me to randomly email someone.

I think some people just see the F and that's it

Yes it's nice to see there interest and what they like

Most of the time I do.

Yes, I'll read through a profile first before I send someone a DM. Usually because I have questions, want to introduce myself, or perhaps tell a story I'd rather not have sit in a comment thread.

Yes

I have only been on SW since this morning... I have looked at profiles before messaging.. After i was told to do so LOL.

Yes... I do check..so that I confirm that person is not fake ..

Yes every time.

I generally don't pm anyone without having previously spoken with them, but I definitely check out profiles even before replying to pms sent to me.

I read profiles when getting to know someone, but I've also not fallen for thhus lazy thinking society has in which every thing can be explained in a few characters. If all it took to explain someone's life, stances, interests etc then people would be very boring, though that would be counter to reality