I dont know what to do

Its a tough call
Vampire spirits as I call them can drain you until you feel like they do ,,
A wise man once said "Good intentions can be destroyed by the company you keep "
I lead people to the one who carried my burdens for me ,,
But today ,so that I am not accused of trying to force my beliefs on others ,,I am careful about how far I go ..
But I help people ,I don't enable them
I have overcome a disease eating my spine ,2 broken marriages ,my kids being taken from me 12 yrs ,,being called a liar about how much pain I was in for over 20 yrs ,,even by my women and parents ,,
service connected trauma PTSD ,and major manic depression now known as BiPolar ,,by changing what I allows myself to think ,see and listen to ,avoiding triggers until I got a grip ,,
I was able to evaluate myself ,and come to grips with who and what I am ,,and change the things I was able to change ,accepted the things I can't ..
Loosing my woman and then my Mom in less then 90 days almost did me in ,,so I went into seclusion for 2 years
But I came out of it a better man
My grief was running everyone away anyhow ,,even my children
No one knew how to help me ,,not even the so called "Professionals ,all they offered was meds that kept me knocked out ,,sleeping all the time is not living ,,

But it can be done ,,(I am the last person to tell "you don't know what I have been through ,I will write you a book "
(but I do understand many of us just wanted someone to listen ,not tell us our problems are nothing )
I have been on my own supporting myself since I was 13 ,there was a good reason for that ,( I think I had PTSD before the service )
So I try to be there for so many people ,pay it back because of the ones that were there for me regardless
But sometimes you just have to let people see
They didn't know what they had until its gone
That is a huge eye opener ,,unless they are just that much into their own little pity party ,,even that is just another reason to say "see ,now they left me too "
Some people just need professional help
Like a 911 call ,,"I think they are a danger to themselves or others ",,a little trip to be evaluated might end up saving a life ,,I did it to many people in the last 7 yrs
All of them thank me for saving them ,they now get the medical and mental health care they needed ,,
But my way is actually better ,,but I'm not going to preach

I have its the same thing that shes depressed because shes alone and wants to find love, I feel the same way to sometimes but I don't let it rule my life waiting for a man to make me happy like she does.

People like that will drag you down, if you let them. Way I see it. Some of us are treading water, some of us are sinking, some of us are swimming, and some of us are....what's the word for sprint swimming? Well that. We might be able to pull some people along, but sometimes they're just too heavy, and especially if they're not helping you help them and are flapping their arms all over the place, making it harder to pull them and yourself through the water. So it's either they drown, or you both drown.

We really need people who will help us swim faster, not slow us down or make us drown.

That said, knowing some good strategies to "state break" people is helpful, as well.

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Just be there for her. Don't try to fix her. So, continue to support, but keep a little distance for your own well being. You could also say that if she is not going to listen to advice given she should not ask and expect it.

Have you discussed your concerns with her?

That’s a really tough situation. Obviously you don’t want to abandon a friend, but you can’t let her bring you down and poison your quality of life. And you can only help someone who [b]wants[/b] to be helped. It sounds like you’ve tried.