I dont know what to do

I have this friend who I have been friends with for about four years. In the last year she has changed she is no longer optimistic but rather constantly depressed and I listened to her and try to be their for her but its becoming a burden because she doesn't get my advice and she never really wants to talk or hangout unless its about her being depressed for being alone and not being married at age 30 or whatever, I am 30 too but im not constantly bringing ppl down and try to be optimistic. Should I let her go or continue to support her??? I just feel like are relationship has been one sided for a while and try to tell her but she continues to do same thing.

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

People like that will drag you down, if you let them. Way I see it. Some of us are treading water, some of us are sinking, some of us are swimming, and some of us are....what's the word for sprint swimming? Well that. We might be able to pull some people along, but sometimes they're just too heavy, and especially if they're not helping you help them and are flapping their arms all over the place, making it harder to pull them and yourself through the water. So it's either they drown, or you both drown.

We really need people who will help us swim faster, not slow us down or make us drown.

That said, knowing some good strategies to "state break" people is helpful, as well.

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JaneCas · 26-30, F

@Tatsumi Thanks for the advice yea I know what you mean its just hard because I have been depressed before like her but I have managed to get out of it and not depend on ppl to make me happy but do it for myself.