I dont know what to do

I have this friend who I have been friends with for about four years. In the last year she has changed she is no longer optimistic but rather constantly depressed and I listened to her and try to be their for her but its becoming a burden because she doesn't get my advice and she never really wants to talk or hangout unless its about her being depressed for being alone and not being married at age 30 or whatever, I am 30 too but im not constantly bringing ppl down and try to be optimistic. Should I let her go or continue to support her??? I just feel like are relationship has been one sided for a while and try to tell her but she continues to do same thing.

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rckt148 · 61-69, M

Its a tough call
Vampire spirits as I call them can drain you until you feel like they do ,,
A wise man once said "Good intentions can be destroyed by the company you keep "
I lead people to the one who carried my burdens for me ,,
But today ,so that I am not accused of trying to force my beliefs on others ,,I am careful about how far I go ..
But I help people ,I don't enable them
I have overcome a disease eating my spine ,2 broken marriages ,my kids being taken from me 12 yrs ,,being called a liar about how much pain I was in for over 20 yrs ,,even by my women and parents ,,
service connected trauma PTSD ,and major manic depression now known as BiPolar ,,by changing what I allows myself to think ,see and listen to ,avoiding triggers until I got a grip ,,
I was able to evaluate myself ,and come to grips with who and what I am ,,and change the things I was able to change ,accepted the things I can't ..
Loosing my woman and then my Mom in less then 90 days almost did me in ,,so I went into seclusion for 2 years
But I came out of it a better man
My grief was running everyone away anyhow ,,even my children
No one knew how to help me ,,not even the so called "Professionals ,all they offered was meds that kept me knocked out ,,sleeping all the time is not living ,,

But it can be done ,,(I am the last person to tell "you don't know what I have been through ,I will write you a book "
(but I do understand many of us just wanted someone to listen ,not tell us our problems are nothing )
I have been on my own supporting myself since I was 13 ,there was a good reason for that ,( I think I had PTSD before the service )
So I try to be there for so many people ,pay it back because of the ones that were there for me regardless
But sometimes you just have to let people see
They didn't know what they had until its gone
That is a huge eye opener ,,unless they are just that much into their own little pity party ,,even that is just another reason to say "see ,now they left me too "
Some people just need professional help
Like a 911 call ,,"I think they are a danger to themselves or others ",,a little trip to be evaluated might end up saving a life ,,I did it to many people in the last 7 yrs
All of them thank me for saving them ,they now get the medical and mental health care they needed ,,
But my way is actually better ,,but I'm not going to preach

RadiantRuby

@rckt148 Thanks for sharing🤗🤗