What advice would you give me...

I know you don't want to hear it but you need to move on. It's going to be really painful but ultimately your future will be better.
If he really doesn't want to lose you he will find himself ready for a relationship.

And there you show exactly how most women feel most of the time.. It's not impossible for women to be friends with benefits but pretty much it tends to be a short term thing because we find it harder to operate in sex without feelings.. if we don't feel we don't have the motivation to have sex..

You are about a million years younger than me but your description of why it stopped working for you is the same as I experienced.. I had a friend with benefits - he was probably one of the best lovers I had..way better than most.. but one day, I just thought.. you will never be mine.. and that was it.. I couldn't enjoy it after that as I had to switch feelings off.. and indeed,the more I did that the more I couldn't feel or enjoy... There's no higher high than having sex with someone you love and who is equally into you..

Sadly when a guy says he's not ready, he usually means not ready to be with you :( It might be that eventually he would come to see you as more but it will be a risk..

You do deserve better and while I can totally understand why you keep him around because not having him around is worse.. the trouble is that in some ways while you continue to provide what he wants you are enabling him to get what he wants without a relationship..

It's tough! And its not for me to say what you should do.. but ask yourself this... IS he providing the friends element as well or is it really jsut meeting for sex?

Friends with benefits seldom work for long. One of you usually has feelings... and gets hurt.
I'll say this tho. Make it clear there are no more benefits.
Ive known people part but get their friendship back on track after a time and distance between them.
Good luck in your decision x

As long as you're giving him sex he probably wont want a "relationship" like you want...he has it made right now, sex with a girl he likes and he can still be free to do what he wants.. you need to do what YOU want

Cut him off but make it stick this time. You’re wasting time that could be used finding someone who is ready.

Nothing that we say right now will make sense to you cause you’re in love. Do whatever makes you happy, even if it’s being with him like that. One day he might get tired of that game that’s when you’ll get hurt. You’ll hopefully learn and grow . Live and let die.

You want commitment and he is not ready for that. Simply either accept him without commitment or find someone else that is good to go as per your expectations.

Cut him off for good and move on. You are settling for less than what you want. He’s getting “benefits” without having to commit. What often happens here is that he will meet a woman whom he wants badly enough to decide he does want a bonifide relationship, not the occasional “booty call”. And where will that leave you ?

Cut him off.start fresh.

dump him